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BOKER MAGNUM Survivor - Full tang survival tanto knife (02RY7085); 440A stainless steel - Duration: 6:31.
From Boker family,
more precisely from MAGNUM, a Boker division,
I'm showing you today a fixed blade knife
called "Survivor".
It's a full tang tanto knife.
So, it's more like a fighting knife.
From Boker Magnum....
Boker Magnum is...
how to call it...
the cheaper/entry level Boker division.
There is Boker Magnum, there is Boker,
there is Boker Plus which is
the premium series.
Magnum is the cheaper series.
The box is pretty nice
and it contains a brochure from Boker.
They congratulate you for buying a Boker knife
and they ask you to complete the form and send it out
to register it.
I didn't do it so far and I will probably not do it at all.
The knife I'm presenting you
is this one.
It has a leather sheath,
a simple one,
it doesn't have anything special
except a loop for pants belt.
It doesn't even have a small strap to fix the knife inside it.
It only has this option to hang it to a belt.
It's ok.
It's pretty well manufactured,
they pay some attention to it
but it doesn't have anything special,
there is nothing stamped on it.
And this is the knife.
As I told you, it's a tanto knife,
it's quite small.
What I like the most about this knife
is its shape.
It looks nice.
Practically, the blade goes all over the handle ,
it's a full tang knife, of course.
The handle is made of
a simple piece of leather
tied with a string at the bottom.
It's made of a stainless steel,
not the best in the world,
440A.
I don't know if you can see it here,
it says "440A" stainless steel.
Its hardness is up to 57 - 58 HRC
depending on how it's heat treated.
Here it says the name of steel, 440A"
and "Magnum by Boker" on reverse side.
I forgot to mention
Boker is one of the most famous
knives producers in Germany.
Even if it's made of stainless steel,
it is a little bit coated.
It's not fully painted
but it's not totally shiny neither.
It's a little coated,
it looks kind of rusty
and yet it's made of stainless steel and it doesn't rust.
It has a nice shape,
tanto, flatted here, on top.
The handle, as I was saying,
is made of brown leather.
The leather simply covers the steel.
The knife's weight is almost 200 grams,
The overall length is 23 centimeters.
The blade is 12 centimeters long.
I'm impressed by its thickness,
it is 6 millimeters thick.
...almost 6 millimeters...
The leather is caught with a
strip made of leather too,,
there are also one, two, three, four strings near blade
and here, at the back end, about five more strings.
All these contribute to a very good grip.
Practically it stays fixed on your hand.
it doesn't move on your hand
unless the leather moves completely out.
I didn't remove the leather to check what's underneath,
I don't know what's underneath this neither.
It's a nice knife, a knife that attracted me.
I had no chance to take it outdoor
and put it at hard work.
It looks to be a robust knife
with all its 6 millimeters thick.
It cuts pretty well
and it's kind of easy to sharp it.
Once again: it's a 440A stainless steel,
it's not the best steel in the world
but it's a good knife.
A knife is a tool not a weapon!
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Just give me a bicycle.
Westerwald, Germany
With Natascha
I'm on the way to Utrecht, Lunetten, by car.
That's where I'm going to pick up Natascha, after that we are going to Germany.
To Westerwald, west from Bonn.
That's where we'll start cycling today.
First drive for 4 hours. And then on the e-bikes!
One little thing: the car is making a weird noise. Somewhere over there.
My boyfriend suddenly mentioned that yesterday night.
Sorry, had some make up here. It's early.
Just have to make some space.
Well, Natascha, what's going on?
We can also speak Polish now.
Cycling is better for me.
Yes, that was a bit scary.
This is the check. It's working well.
We really didn't know how that machine worked.
Okay, someone beeped. Apparently there are more people who want to pump up their tires.
I was trying to get some help in the petrol station. When he saw Natascha, he said straight away: oh, two women!
Yes, very kind.
We're going to drive now. It's a big happening, on the road with a car.
So Natascha, where are we now?
We are in the garage. - Just passed it. - And we already had three men working on Jessica's car.
Hopefully this one will be the last.
They are trying to find out if there's a nail in the tire.
Oh, I wouldn't be surprised.
If you ever have trouble, go to this garage.
We paid 5 euro. Didn't we? Yes.
It all started with the first traffic jam, and the police overtaking us.
The German police guy started shouting at us.
We didn't have a clue what was going on.
Natascha asked: how do I open this window? They thought she was driving.
My steering wheel is on the right (Irish car).
She opened the window, and then he shouted in German: you have got a flat tire.
Your 'Rad'. Your 'Rad' is flat.
Then the Polish truck driver helped us.
After that the man at the petrol station.
We brought so many clothes, we ended up with a soft tire.
It's 3.30 pm. 1,5 hour later than planned.
Also because of the traffic jams. - The valve was leaking.
We are at the Marienbad. This is where we rent the bikes.
I think we have till 8 pm to cycle 50 kilometers. We have to hurry.
Lets install everything, and then we have 5 hours left.
On the bicycle it will go better than in the car. - Natascha: I hope so.
It's very cold. It's .... cold.
What are we going to do here? Drink alcohol.
There's gluten in this.
But the white one doesn't contain gluten.
I can have the white one.
The whisky is called Fading Hill.
It's named after the mountain Stöffel, who slowly get smaller because of delving basalt.
Good? Hm.
We are cycling in the forest. For a while now. On our way to Hachenburg.
And we're feeling very warm.
And that's because, we have to go up, and up and up.
We arrived in Hachenburg. A British phone booth.
But pretty nice, with books!
This is where you can borrow a book I think. There's also a phone.
A lot of half-timbered houses, cute.
It's 7.40 pm. 20 minutes before closing time we are back at the swimming pool.
Was it hard Natascha?
The last part, yes.
We really had to climb.
You probably can't even see me. It's totally dark.
But we've made it.
We're getting our stuff and then head to the hotel.
I just went to the sauna, great.
Now it's time for the restaurant.
Pickup Natascha, she's next doors. I think.
Yes, I'm ready as well.
Straight away a camera in your face.
Oh, I heard high heels, but that's not you.
No, I didn't bring decent shoes.
Otherwise I would be underdressed.
I've seen a lot of naked bodies again.
It's always very confusing in saunas of hotels, I think.
There was a sign... this is 'kein'... a non no bathing suits area.
But that was only for the swimming pool.
I went in with my swimming suit, and then in the sauna I saw people, nude.
Confusing.
It's different in every country, every hotel.
They should clearly write it down, in a book.
Swimwear or not. - Beautiful art.
A very big sauna. I'll film it tomorrow. Without the naked people.
What, naked?
Are they sitting there naked?
Only naked men.
Oh, happy I didn't go.
Life is too short to drink bad wine.
I opened the wine in the hotel room.
Already started drinking? - I thought I take a wine, I've got a real pain in my back.
What did you think of today? Liked it a little bit?
Yes, it was a heavy day.
6 hours in a car, and then the climbing the mountain.
You can pick something yourself. Like to drink something?
A white wine (ordering in German)
Droge witte wijn (in German). It doesn't really matter what (in Dutch).
I have got a gluten-free diet. - One gluten-free, okay.
Do I also get gluten-free now? No, she said one.
It's nicely cold.
It's nicely cold. A wine taster like Jamila. (see other vlog)
Why do have 2 cookies?
Because you can't have gluten.
She took it out of my dessert, and threw in on yours.
I said I couldn't eat it anymore, then she started acting fractiously.
Why? - I say: those gluten are in my dessert now (talking bad German)
I'm full. I don't want another cookie.
She thinks: you are late, the latest ones, everyone has left, and you want me to make another dessert?
Opening a button.
Had to eat three courses in 20 minutes.
Yes, we had to be quick, everyone went to bed already. 10.15 pm.
Here you are. Thanks. I have got an allergy.
Well guys, what a day. In the end it was quite funny.
Of course we were already broken, before we even started cycling.
We only had 45 minutes left at the end, so I decided to take a short cut. Then we had to go up this mountain.
Robert just send me an app: in my next life I want to be a woman.
I sent all the videos: we were only helped by men today.
Sleep in a bit tomorrow, breakfast at 9.30 am. And the more cycling!
I'm tired, think I will sleep well. Bye.
Next blog: rain and storm.
But also sunshine.
Thanks for watching!
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Why we do Nude Photography? 10,000 Subscriber Video - Duration: 5:29.
Hello Everyone.
This is Ryan.
I am a photographer specialised in Fashion and Nude.
This is an unplanned video which i was not planning to make.
But, today morning I was checking the YouTube and I saw we have crossed 10,000 subscribers.
I am so much happy to see that we have crossed 10,000 subscribers.
When I uploaded my first video back in 2016.
It was photoshoot video with Model Julia.
I never expected that 10,000 subscribers or even 1,000 subscribers.
But, things has changed we started an online course.
I started uploading nude photography tutorial videos.
These things were not planned.
I mean, it just happened on the way.
So, in this video I would like to talk something about myself.
I started my career in Photography back in 2011.
That time I was concentrated on Wildlife, Landscape and all.
Subsequently I moved into Fashion Photography again I moved in Nude Photography.
So, I understood in Fashion and Nude there is lot of potential which is actually untapped.
There are many opportunities and options are available for fashion and nude.
But, many people are not realising this.
That's why I decided I will start an online course for those people who wants to learn
fashion and nude.
We started online course last month and we have more than 100 students right now it is
a big motivator for me to continue these tutorials and all.
When I started I was not expecting these much response from students.
Actually, I am overwhelmed to see that I am getting this kind of response.
It is actually motivating me to keep on adding more videos, more tutorials and all.
Initially the frequency of video uploading in YouTube was 1-2 videos in a week.
We have increased it into every alternate days.
So, the support you give is what actually motivates me to keep uploading these videos.
In future, we are planning to add more tutorials, videos and we are also planning to branch
into different genres of photography like landscape and various tips and techniques
for photography.
If you have seen the previous video or previous tutorial videos we have done with Model Sneha.
It was a one day tutorial, we covered shutter speed, ISO and aperture but it was a very
short video and it was like test video for our tutorials and we got a very good response
rate for that videos.
So, it actually again motivated me to continue with more videos.
Next week we are planning to do more nude photography tutorials with Model Parvati.
She has agreed to help us with the tutorial.
So, we will be doing in more detail and full length tutorials of nude photography tutorials
and fashion photography tutorials, various tips, techniques, styling etc..
And I would like to mention one thing that photography is not about actually clicking
the shutter.
It includes lot of things.
Unlike landscape where you just need to click it yourselves, but in fashion photography
you are working with a team, you are working with a stylist, working with a makeup-artist.
So, it's a team work.
So, you need to know more than camera.
We will be covering that part also.
I mean according to me that is the most important aspect in fashion photography.
So, we will be covering that part in more detail.
So, if you are doing a shoot yourselves, you will not be confused or you will not be complete
blank, you will get an idea on what to do, where to go, where to go to find models, where
to go to find makeup-artists, how to work with them, how to manage them.
Actually that is the most important part in the photography business or if you are planning
a photoshoot.
Our online photography course is not just for professionals, it is for everyone who
is interested in photography, who is doing photography as a hobby, or who is doing photography
as a passion.
It is for everyone.I mean, it is a community of photographers who are like-minded who have
similar interest.
So, if you are interested you can join the course and we will be covering lot of tips,
techniques everything and this is what actually motivates me to create more videos.
In future, we are planning to have workshops in different cities.
So, we will be having models coming to different cities.
So, we will have live workshop with models.
It will also give more practical ideas to students and as a photographer it is my responsibility
to give a platform for others to learn.
Whether they learn it or not, it's their job.
As a photographer it's my responsibility that I give a platform.
So that, they can learn.
If there is no place to learn, from where they will learn.
So, I just give a platform for them to learn whether they are in anywhere in the world.
Whether they are in India, whether they are in America, whether they are in France.I just
give a platform.
I really hope that people will make use of this platform and they will improve their
knowledge and they will understand the actual facts of photography.
Actual facts of nude photography.
Not the rumours, not the misconceptions or anything negative.
So, it is actually a positive thing but many people are not taking it in that sense.
But, we believe once you understand this, you will see it in the right sense.
Thank you everyone for love and support and I hope you will keep supporting me.
Once again thank you.
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Stay - BLACKPINK Cover - Duration: 2:16.
So easily, with harsh words, you put scars in my heart
Without even saying sorry Again, I'm comforting myself
Always nervous if you're gonna leave me
I just want you to stay
In your expressionless face that's getting more and more dull
I whisper to the mirror, let's slowly let this go
You take me for granted
But that's you
But still, stay stay stay with me
This sad melody resembles you
It makes me cry eh eh
Your scent is a sweet felony
I hate you so much but i love you
Before the dark night traps me in Don't leave me
Do you still love me? If you feel the same, don't leave today
Don't ask why it has to be you
Just stay with me
(It goes a little something like)
I don't expect a lot right now
Just stay with me
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Stay - BLACKPINK Cover - Duration: 2:16.So easily, with harsh words, you put scars in my heart
Without even saying sorry Again, I'm comforting myself
Always nervous if you're gonna leave me
I just want you to stay
In your expressionless face that's getting more and more dull
I whisper to the mirror, let's slowly let this go
You take me for granted
But that's you
But still, stay stay stay with me
This sad melody resembles you
It makes me cry eh eh
Your scent is a sweet felony
I hate you so much but i love you
Before the dark night traps me in Don't leave me
Do you still love me? If you feel the same, don't leave today
Don't ask why it has to be you
Just stay with me
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The South Korean national women's curling team appeared on MBC's "Infinite Challenge"!.
On the March 17 episode, the five curlers and their coach came on the show after accepting a challenge from the cast members of the variety show.
During the talking segment, "Infinite Challenge" surprised the athletes with phone calls from their favorite celebrities.
SHINee member Taemin called into the show to talk to Kim Eun Jung, who is a well-known, longtime fan of the singer.
Kim Eun Jung recognized his voice right away before he even introduced himself, and shyly covered her face while laughing.
When Yoo Jae Suk said, "There's a longtime fan of yours here," Taemin knew immediately who he was referring to and called Kim Eun Jung by her nickname "Glasses sunbae.".
The MC asked, "Did you know that she's a fan of yours?" and Taemin replied, "Are you sure? Because I'm a bigger fan of you!".
Taemin stated, "It's an honor to be able to speak to you on the phone," and she echoed the same sentiments.
He also exchanged greetings with the other curlers who introduced themselves as Kim Eun Jung's friend, junior, or team coach.
The SHINee member had a request for Kim Eun Jung and asked her to say his name in the same way she yelled "Young Mi" during the curling team's Olympic matches.
She happily obliged and shouted, "Taemin, Taemin, Taemin.
You have to come!".
When the other curlers laughed in embarrassment at what she said, Kim Eun Jung explained that she usually says, "You have to go" to her teammates, but she couldn't bear to send her favorite idol away.
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Practical Tips to Stop Kids from Lying | Parenting A to Z - Duration: 10:42.
Hey hey, my friend! Welcome back! This is Parenting A to Z, I'm Kelly Bourne, and
this week we're diving right into lying. Why our kids lie -- we're gonna take a look
at why they lie in the first place, how to deal in the moment, and then some really
proactive steps we can take moving forward to help send our kids up
for success.
So first off the top, I just want to take a bit of a perspective check. A
bit of a reality check. Because isn't it funny how we get
so upset at our kids and so down on our kids for not mastering something that we
ourselves have maybe not yet mastered?! Because we all lie, right?! We all tell
little fibs every now and again -- heck sometimes we tell big lies, don't we! So I
think it's just important to realize that we all do this. Kind of
normalizing it as something that everyone's working on. And also realizing,
like nine times out of ten, your kids aren't headed for the big house,
right?! They're not headed for the big house. They just need some skills
and some options for when the going gets tough. So
they know they don't have to try and sweep their misdeeds under the rug. That
they can face them and that things will be okay. And the other thing -- we need
to understand *why* they lie before we can do anything about it. Before I can
offer any tips or tools we need to understand why they're even doing it in
the first place. And a lot of times, it's no different than the reasons that
we lie. We're afraid of getting punished. We're afraid of being embarrassed. We're
afraid of being found out. It's really fear-based. We're worried about
what will happen if they find out. What will happen if they know... The other thing
to keep in mind, is that sometimes it's not fear-based at all. For little
kids especially -- our little little kids. Sometimes lying is just part of fantasy.
It's part of make-believe. One of our little guys is in this huge fantasy
phase right now where you never know what is gonna come out of his mouth.
He's not being malicious, he's not trying to cover anything up, he's just telling
stories. He's just being a storyteller. And I think that's where lying can get a
little bit tricky, is walking that line of when it's okay to be making up tales
and when it's not. And then as far as how to deal, one of the the biggest things
and the best and most effective ways you can squash lying before it even starts
it's trying to avoid those "gotcha" moments. And this is one of those things
that I think we're all guilty of doing from time to time. I know I still do it!
I teach this, I preach this, and practicing it can be so so so hard in
the moment. When we notice the lamp is broken, and we notice the toilet hasn't
been flushed for the 50,000th time. What can we do? "What happened to the lamp?!"
"How come the toilet's not flushed?", "What's going on here?!", "Where's this
missing book?!", "Where's my earring?!", "How come the toilet..." "Why is everything
clogged?!" We can go into this, like, trying to "catch" them and it kind of it
can turn into a bit of an interrogation, can't it? With us asking questions and
trying to get them to confess. And what does that do for them? It just
puts them on the defensive, right?! It immediately puts them like -- "Oh my god!
I'm in trouble! What can I say to get out of this right now?" And one of
the easiest ways you can avoid that is if you notice there's been a mistake or
you noticed your kids have done something, if you notice they've broken
that mirror, it's instead of saying "Who broke the
mirror?" or "What happened?!" Is just saying "The mirror's broken."
"The toilet's clogged." "My earring's missing." Sticking to the facts of what's going on
and letting them know that you know your earring is missing, or the toilet is
clogged, or the mirror's broken. And then giving them a chance to say what
happened without already feeling like they're on the defensive. And then I'm
sure the next piece for a lot of you, is what if you say that you notice the lamp
is broken or the earring is missing and they're immediately lying
and you know they're lying. What do you do then? Be honest. Just be
honest about it. This is where I think a lot of our knee-jerk
reaction is to punish and come down on them even harder but if you are open and
honest and say, "You know what? That just doesn't sound like the truth. It
doesn't sound like the truth -- is there something that's not making you feel
safe enough with me to tell you the truth? Is there something that you're
worried about that you can't tell me the truth?" It breaks down that wall and it
breaks down that barrier, opening that little crack of light for them to then
fess up. For them to then say, "Yes, this happened..." or whatever
the truth may be. So whenever we can just kind of bring it down and open that door
and allow them to tell us, feeling like they're safe and not feeling like we're
gonna like -- not like for real that -- but come down on them. (coughing) Excuse me, sorry
guys -- the better. And I know that's hard and I'm not sitting here pretending that
that's how it goes down in our family all the time, because it definitely isn't.
I can definitely let those knee-jerk reactions get the best of me.
But I find when I can keep the door open, when I can keep my cool, that's when I'm
more likely to get that truthful response from my kids -- when they feel
safe to tell me the truth and know that I'm not gonna have a hairy fit over it.
And then moving on from there, when you've had that conversation and
they fessed up or they've told the truth -- or maybe you're still working through
that phase -- is to focus on solutions. What can we do moving forward to make it
so that the earrings don't go missing and the toilet's not clogged and the lamp
isn't broken? The same goes too for the truth-telling piece. If it was hard for
your kids to fess up, if it was hard for them to tell the truth, sitting down and
talking about what would make that easier next time? What would make you
feel more comfortable coming to me and telling me when these things are
happening? Of course this is gonna be very age dependent -- you're not gonna
be able to do this with your two two-year-olds, but
for your older kids who are more into the lying phase, absolutely you will be
able to have those conversations. And then the last thing I want to touch on
too, just for anyone who's still really struggling with this or their kids are
struggling with this and telling the truth and you've tried other angles, is
just to get curious in the moment. And again, I know it's so hard, it's so
hard -- I know, I'm closing, I feel you guys. I know how hard it can be to maintain a
sense of calm when you're really upset and you feel like your kids are lying or
manipulating you. But getting curious with them and just
asking questions and sticking to "what"
questions is a really big tool. Because as
soon as we start getting into "why" -- "Why did you do this?!" and "Why were you there?!"
"Why weren't you doing what I told you to do?!" It can bring up the defenses. But if you
can really sit back, put on your curiosity hat, and try to look
at it as more of a conversation than an interrogation, that's another way
to kind of open that door even just a crack so your kids can see that you're
on the same team and have them feel safe in in coming to you and sharing when
maybe they they were out of line or they had a little misstep. So that they know
that you're on the same team. Because if we come in guns a-blazing firing the
punishments they are probably not gonna feel so safe coming to us in the future
when they really need help. So that's just something else to keep in mind. And
then really quickly, just a few "big picture" items to always kind of have in
your back pocket, just in your day-to-day life with your kids, for encouraging a
sense of truthfulness, is embracing mistakes as opportunities to learn. And I
know I say it over and over and over again, but this is so so important. I
can't say enough how important this is for our kids to know that they
can fall on their face, that they can make mistakes, that they can have the
biggest screw-ups of screw-ups, and come to us and we'll be there for them. Not to
sweep it under the rug or take care of it for them, but to help them work
through it themselves so they know that they can face the big things with us.
That they're not alone. That they can always come to come
to us. And the way to do that is for them to know that mistakes are okay. And the
other piece with that too, is that if they know that mistakes are okay, they're
gonna be less likely to try and cover them up with lies. Not only are
they going to be more willing to come to us with the truth, they're gonna be less
likely to try and sweep them under the rug. Another really really big one is
acknowledging their courage when they do come forward with the truth. This is huge.
Saying, "Wow! Thanks bud, that took a lot of courage for you to tell the truth." or
"That was really brave of you to come and tell me when I'm sure you were probably
a little bit nervous or a little bit afraid." Thanking them and acknowledging
their courage and coming forward will be one of
the best ways to encourage them to do it again next time. Because they feel
safe. And that doesn't mean that they won't
have to deal with the consequences, but they will feel safe and coming and
facing it with you rather than having you coming down on them. And then the
last thing too, is maybe again depending on the situation and the age of your
kids, is backing off a little bit. Allowing for a little bit more privacy.
Because if you are constantly up in your kid's grill, all up in their business and you
want to know everything they're doing, they'll probably lie just because they
want you off of their back. So again, this won't apply in every situation, but if
you feel like you maybe have been a little bit, I don't even want to say it
but like "helicopter-y" or in your kid's business, just notice.
Because they may be lying just to have some privacy and to have something that
is theirs that they don't have to feel like they have to share with the entire
family. So the bottom line, I guess guys, is that if we want our kids to come to
us, to be truthful with us, to be honest with us, even in the trickiest of
situations, they need to feel safe. So just try your best to be
really really honest with your feelings, be really honest with the facts, avoiding
those those "gotcha" moments, and just and come in peace. And really try to
come in peace. Allow your kids time to explain, acknowledge their courage in
coming forward, and then work together on solutions moving forward so
situations like that are less likely to happen in the future. So I know it's a
big topic, it's a tricky topic, but I hope that helps. Of course if you're
looking for any more in-depth parenting resources or support join us over in the
Parent 'Hood, we'd be so happy to have ya! But yeah, take care guys. I hope
that helps. And I'll see ya in the next vid!
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