how's it going everyone I'm Dono and
this is how to happy in this video we're
going to be talking about a little
relationship technique that you can use
which is called the keeping in touch
schedule so for a lot of us you know we
have these relationships that are really
good and then over time people start
going in different directions the
relationships kind of fall apart and
there's probably a list of people in
your life that you used to be in really
good touch with that you're not anymore
just because things kind of drifted
apart but that you would still like to
be in touch with so a cool little
technique that you can use is to have a
keeping in touch schedule now for a lot
of you who do this naturally who just
naturally reach out to people and
remember this is might sound a little
bit strange or contrived or burdensome
but for those of us like me who often
forget to do a lot of these things this
has been a huge lifesaver the main idea
here is that when you have a
relationship that you want to keep up on
but you may not see the person all the
time or for whatever reason you don't
keep in contact as much as you'd like to
you set yourself a reminder in your
calendar to follow up with this person
at a certain time now when I say follow
up it doesn't have to be anything crazy
you can just check in whatever it is
that you want to do and at whatever
frequency feels best for you
but basically you set yourself the timer
and you say okay Thursday I'm going to
talk to this person
then when Thursday comes around you get
your notification on your calendar which
I know a lot of us live out of our
calendars you get it through your
calendar on your phone or however you've
set it and it just reminds you hey make
sure you reach out to this person now
one caveat when using this is you
probably don't want to set too many
people for each day or really get your
calendars so full that all you're doing
all day is just kind of reaching out to
different people but it may not be a bad
idea to have multiple people on the same
day right so maybe two but not 10
because one of the people may not
respond so by doing this you and
that you maintain a lot of these
relationships not only is that going to
be helpful in terms of keeping the
relationships alive but a lot of times
the more connections that you nurture
the more opportunities that you find and
that come up right you might be catching
up with somebody you're looking to write
a book or something they know someone
who's a publisher yada yada yada right
so on top of keeping your relationships
alive it's going to open up more
opportunities for you because people
just know people you'll have more access
to resources now to be fair I don't use
these kinds of reminders for every
single person I mean right it'd be
overwhelming you know there's people
that I see every day that I don't need a
reminder to stay in touch with them but
the main two use cases I use it for are
like I was saying these older
relationships that I want to revive and
make sure that we stay in touch and I
also use this with people that I meet
you know that I've just met for the
first time that I want to keep in touch
with if I don't want to keep in touch
with them then you know we'll just kind
of let things go but if it's someone
that I feel like I can provide a lot of
value to or they can provide a lot of
value to me or a little bit of both then
I try to set up the schedule so that I'm
talking to them close to proximity when
I met them right so if I meet someone I
don't want the next time that I talk to
them if there's someone I want to get to
know better to be three months down the
line when I remember so a lot of times
with these new relationships I'll set
myself a reminder for you know a week
later or maybe a week and a half so that
I can keep in touch with them and keep
building up that relationship that has
been really helpful because these are
people and relationships that would
otherwise slip by and not really be
built up on top of that it is only
really for people that I feel like I
want to continue connecting with right I
don't do this with every single person
going off of that note it makes sense to
set your reminders based on the strength
of the relationship right so if you knew
someone really well for five years you
might only need to catch up with them
once a month once every other month but
if it's someone that you just met you
might need to keep the connection a
little bit stronger as you build the
deeper bonds so that they can transfer
over a longer period of time totally up
to you it has everything to do with just
what kind of relationships you want to
build where you want to go with them the
level of depth how much time you're
willing to spend all that stuff but it's
just something to keep in mind there's
no hard and fast rule I don't say like
okay I make sure to follow up every week
it really depends on the relationship
and what I'm trying to accomplish with
that person another thing to think about
is that sometimes if you you know start
implementing this but it's with
acquaintances that you had years ago you
may not want to set too fast of a
schedule and you may want to feel out
where the relationship is now right if
it's someone that you knew five years
ago for a couple weeks and you want to
get back in touch with them start slow
right pick your first time catch up with
them but see where it goes from there if
the connections still there and it's
really strong then maybe you want to
follow up more frequently if not you may
want to re-evaluate and see if this is
really a relationship that you want to
hold on to because the reason a lot of
times with these relationships fall
apart is not just memory it's because
people are going in different paths and
don't connect as well as they used to so
that's something to keep in mind one
last note this is meant to just be a
reminder so that you remember to contact
the people that you want to be in touch
with if it starts feeling like a chore
and you really you know just dreading
every single time one of these comes up
like how great I've talked to this guy
now NASA talk to this person then don't
use the technique right don't make this
a schedule for yourself that you
absolutely hate and you just have to
continue doing it even though it's a
drag right as with a lot of the things
we talk about it's just another tool
that you can potentially implement to
increase the strength of your
relationships so that's just one tip or
technique that you can use to try to
stay up on your relationships keep in
touch with people if you have any tips
or ideas that you use we'd love to hear
them but beyond that let's move into the
exercise section so number one think of
someone you'd like to reconnect with and
reach out to them to schedule a time
into your calendar to talk to them again
that's all that I've got for this video
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