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GOT7's JB Talks About His Music, Promoting With JJ Project, And GOT7's Upcoming Comeback - Duration: 2:42.
GOT7's JB Talks About His Music, Promoting With JJ Project, And GOT7's Upcoming Comeback
GOT7s JB recently shot a pictorial for beauty and lifestyle magazine Allure Koreas October issue.
The idol has been keeping busy lately with JJ Project promotions, featuring in Primarys album, and preparing for GOT7s upcoming comeback.
In the interview, JBs face lit up while talking about music.
We made a comeback as JJ Project after five years and the month-long promotions felt too short, he said, and expressed his regret at not being able to perform as well as he would have liked.
When asked about what youth meant to him, he said, Longing.
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Nurture Parenting Q&A #6 - 31 Jan 2017 - Duration: 55:12.
Hello Everybody!
Welcome again to Karen and Nurture Parenting and Facebook Live!
We have another stinking hot day in Sydney and it is forty degrees and oh my goodness
I can't believe, every Tuesday there seems to be a really hot day.
So, today I'm going to be answering all your questions.
I've got heaps from last week to answer, and then
there will be obviously some more coming from this week.
I'm so excited, and let's get into it, let's get started.
So I had to whiz over to the Apple shop today to go and get some new headphones because
I got a new phone, old phone dropped on the pavement,
and as usual that's the last thing that you want to do when you're
doing a Facebook Live.
But I'm here, slightly late, so apologies.
Technology, again!
So, last week I did a competition, and the lucky winner is Jess Finlan.
So well done to Jess - congratulations.
I did a competition to win some Babe sunscreen.
So that's going to be making it's way to Jess
and I'm going to send you the lotion version, and it's SPF 50, it is water resistant,
it's amazing, full of lovely natural products.
Ok some more questions coming in, right excellent so we'll get to those shortly.
So Jess, congratulations.
This is going to be winging it's way to you and
it's in our online shop at Nurture Parenting, which is full of lovely
organic products.
Calendula, Blackberry, Aloe Vera, Chamomile etc, etc.
So Jess, lucky winner.
So, we're going to do another competition today.
YAY!
So every week we're going to be doing a competition.
So, this week I decided that I would give away one of my ebooks and my Help a New Mum
ebook and my Baby Massage book.
So I'm going to tell you a little about both of them.
So, they're available to watch through your iPad, through the Kindle
and one here on my Kindle here.
So it's very portable, you can watch them, read them on your mobile phone
so if you're there in the nursery.
In the future they'll probably go onto audio so then you'll be able to
listen to them while you're feeding which I think would be a great
thing to be able to do.
So, I'm giving away one of my Baby Massage Books: The Magic of Touch.
So I've been teaching baby massage for a long time, about 18 years now.
I'm a big believer in it.
It really makes a massive difference with sleep with babies.
Babies that are massaged every day get to sleep quicker, and will sleep for up to an
hour longer every day.
They gain weight better, they thrive better, they feed better, they're more zen.
I think that it would be lovely if every baby got a massage.
I think it would just be fabulous.
I think that every person, and every mum deserves a massage.
I think Karen deserves a massage this week.
So that is something on my list.
I think some self-care for all of us is important.
But babies, baby massage amazing.
This book, it is got an embedded video inside it.
So Karen's a techie geek - she loves her technology, and this book is on Apple in the
iBook store, and the video you can actually watch it on your TV, so it's downloadable.
Watch it straight away, and it's got a split screen to it so you
can watch look down, and from the side.
So you'll see me massaging a seven month old baby in this video.
So babies from 6 weeks old onwards, great for massage.
So that's what you're going to win today - Baby Massage
book with an embedded video.
Fabulous!
So, also included in the competition in the prize, is the 'Help I'm a New Mum and
I Don't Know What to Do'.
This has been revolutionary.
It is all my secrets of how to prevent sleep problems, so then you
can avoid sleep training.
And there's no crying, and it's gentle.
Ok.
And it's about all the things that you need to know to help get great sleep, great day,
patterns for your baby.
And it just gives you a cheat sheet, and A-Z of all my secrets of 28 years as a midwife,
and it really is an absolute godsend.
I get reviews all the time sent to me.
If I gave all the reviews out and comments about this book, oh my goodness I'd be even
busier than what I am.
And I got a mum recently, third child, and this has changed her life.
So Kobi thank you for your review, it was beautiful, and really heart
send.
So those two books - whoever gets drawn from today gets the
Baby Massage and the Help I'm a New Mum ebooks.
So Yay!
Alright so let's get into this week's Facebook Live.
So hello everybody.
You can put your thumbs up, give your like, give your love heart if you want to.
So thank you for joining me, I know that all of your time is valuable.
I'm going to give you some really good information, some really great answers, and you can ask me anything
each week, and I promise to answer everything.
I will not leave anything out.
So say I don't get to it this week, I'll answer it next week.
If I get a massive backlog, I'll probably put it onto YouTube, because I
think that's probably where we're going next.
Because there's so many questions coming in, literally.
So I am going to start off first with Jules and Calvin, 17 months.
Now Calvin is a little toddler that I went to
help recently with his sleep.
They went to Vietnam on night two of sleep training, and he slept on the plane.
And Calvin had been a bed-sharer until that time.
He'd never known his cot until he met me.
He had been booby feeding from the breastfeeding buffet every
night, 5, 6 times.
And we got him in his cot on night one, and he
slept amazingly.
And on the plane on night two, Jules put him into his little sleep suit, zipped him up,
read him a story, and Calvin was out like a light.
Incredible.
So good success story there from Jules.
Now, the problem now with Calvin is that he's having
lots of tantrums.
So he's going through that typical 18 month wonder week - that big separation anxiety
where he's learning to become completely separate to his mummy.
It's massive, and boys really navigate that wonder week in not a great way.
They are better when they're sleep trained, but even so, you're going to have
some big meltdowns from children around 18 months.
So I talked to Jules about the 5 minute rule.
This 5 minute rule is like a transition statement.
It's telling your child what's going to happen next.
So often we tend to do things without thinking, i.e. start the bath, do the dinner, take
them out for a walk, but we don't tell them what's happening.
So when you've got a —- hello Lauren —- so when we've got a 3 year old we use a 3 minute
rule, when we have a 2 year old we use a 2 minute rule.
So for Calvin I'll give you an example say
it's come to bath time and bed time.
Say, "Right Calvin in 2 minutes time we're going to be finished doing our
play now, and then we're going to be going upstairs for a bath".
And then we tell him, in one minute - so get down to eye level, make sure we've got eye
contact there, say "One minute time Calvin we're going to
be going for a bath" "Ok, now Calvin, bath time!"
Then we're breaking it down, so then it's not such
as big a shock for Calvin.
So that 5 minute rule is in my blog, it is amazing.
In the future there will be toddler book coming from Karen with all our little secrets.
But I think that is a little gem that will make life so
much easier, and it usually decreases tantrums by about fifty percent.
Other kids tantrums is because they're hungry, and also with sleep as well.
So make sure they're having regularly naps, make sure they're getting
enough of food, because they need lots of calories, high fat diet, lots
of low GI carbs etc and protein.
But they're things that will decrease tantrums, so I hope that's helpful for
you Jules.
Hi to Jules and Calvin!
Alright so, next I am going to come to Tanya's question.
Tanya asked me this question last week.
So Hi Tanya!
Hope your week was good!
So Tanya's got a 3 week old baby, which must be 4 weeks old
now.
He only seems to like to be in my arms to fall asleep, and wakes after 15 to 20 minutes
later, and the cycle starts again.
Now this is really common in new babies.
New babies tend to have really light sleep cycles,
they're easily aroused.
And that is partially a survival mechanism, and it's all part of preventing and reducing
the risk of SIDS.
But, it can be problematic when it comes to sleep.
So things that I will suggest Tanya is, as well as you hopefully might win my competition for Help
I'm a New Mum and I Don't Know What to Do, because it's
got all the secrets in there as to how to manage sleep.
Now, often we tend to hold babies a lot, and we tend to
hold them for too long.
This often creates problems with overtired babies because we're not seeing their tired
signs until they are overtired.
And then we've got a big problem with overtiredness and that witching hour
gets worse etc.
So looking at teaching self-settling in the day, and it's gentle, and it's kind and
it's not controlled crying, it's not sleep training,
it's baby sleep learning.
Looking at putting him down awake in the cot when you start the day.
Now, a 4 week old baby would probably be ready to go for a sleep, about an hour,
to an hour and a quarter, sometimes an hour and a half.
So most of the babies I meet have not read the books,
and the books say an hour and a quarter.
Well, I know babies who are 9 weeks old and can be up for 2 hours,
or even 2 and a half hours.
So it's about getting the right amount of tired signs, and making sure they are
properly tired.
Because if we try and put them down too early, and just see one yawn, they're
often not going to go down all that well.
So I want to look at a pattern of feed, play, sleep in your day.
Feeding till your baby's completely got a full tummy.
I'll be looking at, even with a new baby, looking at feed, play, and an extra feed if
you're breastfeeding and then sleep.
Because that way you're maximising your feeding.
And you might even want to change your nappy half way through.
So, feed, a bit of tummy time on the floor, change your nappy really,
then do the extra bit of the feed just to make sure he's properly full, then again
put him down on the floor just to see what the tired signs are - that's the best
way of reading a baby.
That way you will really change how and when you are putting your baby down.
So it's only taken me 17 years of doing baby sleep and 28 years as a midwife
to work this stuff out.
But this is the stuff that you will learn, parents will learn from me on home visits
I'm giving you today on Facebook Live.
So always read your baby from the floor, on a little bunny rug.
Because when babies are on the floor, they show their stress signs.
When we're holding babies we're masking their stress, and then we don't read
their tired signs until they're overtired and that's when we end up in a pickle often.
So that will be a big game changer for a lot of you, and hopefully for
you Tanya that's going to help you.
So I want you to swaddle him.
I like swaddling with hands up.
As a lot of you know out there, I gave the girl with the Love to Dream Suit
the idea for the Love to Dream Suit. No kidding - I know she's very rich now, I'm not,
anyway, that's another story.
But I love having babies with their hands by their head, because it's a survival mechanism.
It reduces the risk of SIDS, it's how they are in utero.
So Love to Dream Suite I love, I also love the ErgoCocoon thing,
because the arms again are up.
I don't like putting arms by sides in babies unless I've got an overtired baby,
and then I do.
So that's my secret, overtired babies, it's in my Help a New Mum book - what to
do with an overtired baby.
It shows you how to manage the witching hour, how to manage overtiredness.
And I talk to you in there about my rolling pin method.
Only the people who have seen me on home visits or read my
Help I'm a New Mum Book will know what the rolling pin method is.
To me that saved many many many many parent's lives and saved parent's
lives on many occasions.
So my rolling pin method - I actually put babies with their hands by their sides.
Maybe in the future I might do a little video on what my rolling pin
method is - not yet, so if you want to know what my rolling pin method is, then you need
to buy the 'Help I'm a New Mum and I Don't Know What to Do' book.
It works with babies under 3 months of age, some
babies even under 4 months of age.
Rolling pin great for overtired babies, and great for that witching hour,
which is a life saver.
Ok so Julie's saying, oh my marketing lady's saying Karen don't talk about the rolling
pin method!
Right, I'm going to stop right now.
I'm not going to give you any more.
I'm going to leave that as a teaser.
I've got lots of secrets, and unfortunately sometimes
I like to share them too much.
Hence the Love to Dream and what that lady is now rich and I'm not.
I should have done it myself.
So Tanya, hopefully that has given you some ideas there of what to do.
Always put your baby down awake in the cot.
I want you to just tuck in with a cotton sheet, if it's a really hot day just use your swaddle.
If it's a really really really hot day you
might not even want to use a swaddle, you might just want to put baby
down awake in the cot, and just tuck in with a very light sheet - use the fan, use the
air con, fans are really good for little babies.
And then I want you to walk away, just for a few minutes to see what happens,
not for very long.
Between 1 and 3 minutes is usually about right.
Go back to him, and then I want you to put your
hand on him, and help him to settle and stay with him.
Ok, so little babies stay with them.
Pick up when they get upset, short cuddle, down again.
Pick up, down again.
And the secrets for how long I do a cuddle again is in my Help I'm a New Mum book.
So all these things are really important to know ok?
So hopefully that's helped you there Tanya.
So I'd be looking at a dark room for sleep around 6 weeks of age, very
important.
Babies after 6 weeks of age don't sleep in light rooms.
And you need a cool room so, AC or a fan, close the curtains in the morning to keep
the heat out the house.
And hopefully that's helped you there Tanya.
So let me know how you get along.
So next we're going to come on to Georgie.
And Georgie last week sent me a question.
And she says "Hi!
First time poster!".
So high Georgie first time poster.
So well done on sending your question in, I love questions.
So she says "Our 7 month old boy will only nap for 30 minutes during the day.
I've tried going in early to resettle, tried putting him down
for naps earlier, later, white noise. Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated."
No problem at all Georgie, I've got heaps of ideas for you.
So, I'm guessing that your baby goes down ok at night time, goes down awake in the cot
sleeps well at night time, there's no issues.
That's what I'm presuming.
If it's different Georgie, just send me some comments in.
Otherwise, I'd be looking at timing.
Timing is a massive issue with catnapping.
So again, as I was saying to Tanya,
with Tanya's question before, we're putting babies down way too early.
If babies are not tired enough,
they're not going to go to sleep and sleep for a long time.
Now, Tresillian, Karitane, sleep school,
other baby sleep whisperers, baby sleep consultants,
they're telling parents to put the baby down after one yawn.
And that is a big mistake.
So it is very interesting being me at times, because I'm a lone voice saying
these things that are very different from what you're hearing.
Now bear in mind I trained in England,
so I've been taught English ways.
In England we're taught by a psychologist how to do sleep work,
behaviour work.
I'm a specialist practitioner.
My training level is of an advanced level, so my knowledge is
very different to most people.
So very important that your waiting for more than just one yawn.
I want to see a few yawns, particularly with an older baby.
I want to see a bit of eye rubbing with a 7 month old baby.
Even a little bit of whinging.
Most people would say, or some people would, say "That's too late Karen, that's overtired."
No it's not.
So when I'm just waiting for that little bit of whinging, not a lot, but just a little bit.
I want them to ask for their bed,
I want them to ask for their sleep, and ask for their cot.
Ok that makes a big difference.
So a little baby, yes I wouldn't wait for masses of yawns and crankiness.
But I want a little bit of a clue that that baby is tired,
they're not just one little yawn.
Because yawns, they might be tired,
they might not, it might just be purely a reflex action.
I want to make sure.
So I've got a library full of babies, and what the tired signs are.
Right from newborn, right to toddlers at 3 years old.
So I've been filming and recording for the last 2 years.
And when I do home visits, or in the pharmacy in Basger's at Bondi, I will show you
what tired signs you need to look for, because that is really crucial.
This stuff in the future will go into apps, it will go
into learning modules, so it will be a game changer.
So once you see what to do, it makes a massive difference.
Now on my Youtube there is a video on there of what tired signs are for a young baby
under 3 months. 6 weeks old.
And I look at hands on settling on there as well so that will give you an idea on there too.
Ok.
But it's looking at when you put them down.
So you put them down too early, is a disaster, and that's why
most parents are getting catnapping.
So no amount of resettling is going to work if that timing is incorrect.
So I read babies as most people know, like most people read books.
I'm a bit unusual in that way.
But in a good way, I like to be unusual.
So, babies tell me when they need to go down, and I teach parents on my
home visits exactly what you need to know.
And I get amazing results, as you probably all know.
Literally in a one night stay I've turned life around for
this mum called Jess, and she's got a little girl called Xanthe.
And Xanthe's in a hip brace for her little hips.
And last night she slept for 7 hours!
Then slept for 6 hours, with just one feed in the middle.
Previously Xanthe was waking up every hour.
Today she's put her down and she's gone to sleep
within just a few minutes, and no crying.
So, transformed just within one night.
So I teach you what I know, over 28 years of me being a midwife,
and doing sleep work.
And I think, all the thousands of babies I've helped, all the thousands of parents I've helped.
And it is thousands now.
So imagine 28 years of me doing this, how many babies I've seen,
I've helped, how many babies I've delivered as a midwife…
So all that knowledge is what I'm giving to you when
I come and help in the home, and what I help parents with at
Basger's in Bondi, and hopefully through Facebook Live and through other things I'm going
to be doing in the future.
So I work on observation, into pattern recognition. So very analytical, very logical, and very scientific.
I'm always questioning 'What is it I'm seeing?
What is it that baby's saying?
What needs to happen for that baby?
You wouldn't be wasting your time to either do a phone consult with me, do a Skype,
or do a visit, come and see me at Basger's.
Because even in those situations, I can really change people's lives.
So Georgie, I hope that's helped you.
Now one other thing I want to add is tryptophan.
If you give foods high in tryptophan an hour, just one hour before your nap,
then that really helps them get to sleep, and stay asleep for longer.
So it can be just as simple as giving a banana for dessert,
with some brown rice pudding, or just a banana by itself.
Or giving some chicken, or giving some turkey.
So there is a blog called "Help of a New M…"
"How to fix your baby's sleep with diet,"
and Julie will put that up for you at the end of this, on this feed.
And so you'll be able to click on that and have a look at that.
And so it is really important we're given the right food, and
we're given the right amount of calories, the right volume of food as well.
If that dish is empty give more food.
At your little baby's age you should be having about a cup and a half to 2 cups of
food at each meal.
So if that dish is empty, give more.
Give finger foods, eat with them.
When you eat with them and give finger foods and turn the TV off,
they can eat up to 25% more food.
So massive.
So modelling behaviour.
So Georgie, I've given you quite a few things there.
So first time poster. Hopefully you've got a fabulous answer, and a fabulous turnaround Georgie.
So I would love to know how you get along - give me some feedback,
let me know!
Ok, so, we're now coming on to Lauren, and I know Lauren's listening
and Lauren's been waiting patiently.
Hello Lauren. Give me a thumbs up and a love heart
if you're there still.
Is Lauren Elise Rizk still there?
Has she had to go back and feed her baby?
Hello Lauren?
It doesn't matter I will carry on Lauren, because you can come back to it later.
So, Lauren asked me two questions.
She asked a question about thumb sucking.
At what point in time does it become an issue?
Now baby's 10 months old now, will he grow out of it, or does he need something else
to replace it for settling and falling asleep?
A few people have made comments about it, and that it's an issue, which has made me
have a think about it.
It's fascinating isn't it, when people give their opinion, their comments.
It is often their point of view, and it is often
nothing to do with your baby.
They're trying to be helpful, but sometimes it doesn't come across this way.
And I think mums are in a very vulnerable position.
And people offer advice whether you've even asked for it or not - they can't help themselves!
As a nurse and a midwife, I'm incredibly respectful, and I don't offer advice unless
I am asked for it.
Hello Melinda!
So, I would just sit back on that one Lauren, and do you really need
to get rid of the dummy at this point?
Now when they get to about 2, then it can become a dental issue.
So there's many ways of getting rid of them.
Sucking and also dummies as well.
So thumb sucking, there is things like "Stop and Grow" you can put on them.
I'm sure there's lots of homeopathic herbal stuff you can put on thumbs.
Now, I was a thumb sucker until I was 5.
So I'm fessing out.
Yes, I had lots of dental work done and, it's only really a problem if you've
got an overcrowded mouth, which I had, and still have.
Or a small jaw which I have.
If you've got a normal shaped jaw. Hi Mercy!
Hope you're having a fabulous day and keeping cool!
So if you've got a small jaw, and you've got an overcrowded mouth,
and that runs in your family, then it can be a problem.
But, if it's not a problem for you, and it's not a problem for your child,
then why remove it?
I think thumbs are very comforting things.
You can't give a lovey or toy till 1, so if you take your ...
Hi Jemma!
So if you take your, your thumb away, what are you going to replace it with?
And how upset is your baby going to be?
So I love the thumb.
And I, I remember fondly sucking my thumb, and with my soft toys and everything,
and I think comfort for children, and having that comfort.
You can never lose a thumb!
Your thumb's always there!
It can't be taken away!
And as long as by the age of 2, certainly by 5, that dummy is gone, that thumb is gone,
I think that is really important.
I tell you what my dad did with me. I don't recommend this by the way.
I don't think it's particularly kind - but anyway he was doing his best.
He was doing what he felt he should do.
Mum, if you're listening to this, Lesley if you're listening to this,
please don't tell dad that I've roused on him, that I've told on him.
So when I was 5 my parents realised that I was never going
to get rid of my thumb because I loved it so much.
So my dad put hot English mustard on to my thumb.
And it actually stopped me, but I didn't like it.
I don't like hot English mustard!
I like wasabi, so I obviously got over my fear of
hot things, but I'm not really one for hot food or chillies or anything.
Maybe he scarred me for life I don't know!
Anyway, that's what my father did, I'm rousing on you dad, you put
hot English mustard on my thumb.
Not sure if it's kind or not, like I say, I wouldn't do it to a child.
Anyway that's what used to happen in the 60s and 70s when Karen was growing up.
So, "Stop and Grow", you can buy it from the pharmacy at the
age of two and that's something you can use. Like I said there's probably Homepathic stuff out there.
I'm sure there's other kinder ways of
than hot English mustard or wasabi, or even "Stop and Grow".
So Lauren, I hope that helped you.
So leave the thumb, leave it where it is.
It's a lovely thing and it's not going to cause any harm.
And if anything, thumb sucking reduces the risk of allergies.
It helps issue the child to normal bacteria, and helps their gut and their immune system.
So there's many reasons to love a thumb.
Right Lauren, for your other question was regarding white noise.
"We've always had something playing since we did sleep training
with you at 3 months, and Hugo is now 10 months old.
We had it on primarily because of the dog barking, and to allow him
not to be woken so often as his room was at the front of the house,
i.e. parcel deliveries etc.
We've now moved house, and he's upstairs.
Is it bad to still have music or something playing overnight and day sleeps?
Should we get rid of it completely and sleep in silence?
I just don't want to cause long term issues and dependence."
So the white noise thing, interesting it's not a massive sleep association, however,
I'm not a fan of music or lullabies, or music played on a loop,
because if it changes tempo that can jar and cause problems.
I do like white noise however, and I can give some very challenging
sleep training where I've been underneath the flight path of big air buses.
Which is like, "Oh my goodness!"
So I think in those situations to have this background that masks sounds
Even things like if you're living in the city of Sydney and you've got apartments
being built near you, which I have. Many parents have.
I think to mask that out with white noise is a great idea.
I'm a fan particularly of raindrops, of the vacuum cleaner.
Hairdryer. They're all great ones.
Just be careful of the loudness, it should be no more than 65 decibels,
and down to about 50 is ideal.
And you can get a decibel meter that you can put up to your smartphone or your iPhone.
So it's good just to check out how loud it is.
It should be no louder than an ordinary conversation.
So, Claire sent me a question in here, so I'll be coming round to you in a moment.
And everybody else who's sent questions in.
Right Elysha, this is the other question from last week I didn't get to.
So "Hi Karen" ... Elysha Annor Lartey.
"Hi Karen, I have a question about my 17 month old boy
who's in a cot in our room.
We don't have another room currently for him to sleep in.
He has been a terrible sleeper from day 1. Waking every 1.5 hours up until 15 months old.
But I've recently gotten him to sleep better using your techniques
along with night weaning."
Excellent! Well done Elysha!
"But when we wakes, he can see us in bed, and wants me to come and settle him.
Do you have any advice on how to encourage him to sleep longer on his own?
I'm giving him a bottle of water when he wakes, and I'm breastfeeding him from
around 4.30 to 5 o'clock, just to get some more sleep."
So, bear in mind that this little boy. Elysha's little boy is 17 months old.
So that's quite an oldish toddler.
So I would not be giving the water at all Elysha on a regular basis.
Water has created problems for many babies and toddlers waking up.
I have an 18 month old waking up at half past 3 just for a bottle of water.
And because it happened for 3 months, the water kept happening.
He kept waking. The water kept happening. He kept waking.
So don't, if you're going to give something, don't give it for more than a week,
and don't give it at the same time every night.
Water is like milk, it's like, it's like a cuddle in the middle of the night,
it's like putting him into your bed, it's all the same thing.
Ok.
So water isn't as innocent as what it appears.
However, when you've got a 40 degree day like we have today,
I think water is very useful, and I certainly use it when I'm doing sleep training.
Because, when you're in Australia and it's 40 degrees, you cannot
not give water, in sleep training, it is just no doable.
So and it's been a vile summer recently.
But just be careful with that water.
Also, the boobie, from half past 4.
So I'd be looking at the diet during the day, I'd be looking at pulling
the rug and taking that feed away Elysha.
I think that at 17 months he does not need a feed.
And I'd be worried about dental decay.
Now, we don't talk about this a lot, but breastfed babies,
there's a lot of sugar in breast milk.
And those first teeth have very little enamel on them.
And I've seen teeth, tooth decay, caused by nighttime breastfeeding,
and it is a big problem.
So, not just from a sleep point of view, I'd be looking from
a health point of view.
And once you've got decay to first teeth, then you've got decay to second teeth because
that bacteria is in that mouth, and that mouth cavity.
So I would actually take that breast feed away as well as the water.
And then I'd be looking at resettling.
I'd be looking at how you settle him.
So Elysha, if you need more help with this, contact me please.
Because I help with lots of toddlers, and toddlers are very challenging.
So I've had a 12 month old recently, and mum's pregnant with baby number 2, and she
was having 5 feeds at night time, and demanding to go into mum's bed.
And when I went to help them, she literally stood up in her cot, and when I took her out
for a quick cuddle, she pointed to the door, and went, "Take me, take me".
And she was very firm with her pointing.
And so I didn't.
And now she's sleeping through every night.
So, toddlers at 17 months, I wouldn't be giving night feeds at all. I'd be looking at sleep.
And within a night Elysha, 2 nights, you can turn this around
to even get a sleep through.
It's about being really consistent, really firm, sit by the cot,
do your parental presence thing.
You can be very loving doing this, it doesn't need to be mean.
But I would be taking that feed away, and I'd be taking that water away love.
So, hopefully that's helped you.
And then I'd be looking at tryptophan in the day, and looking at the diet.
It'll take about 4 days, 5 days, till diet improves, but you have to take
these things away.
Your little boy unfortunately Elysha, is not going to go "I'm sorry mum but
I'm going to give you a leave pass, and you can sleep through tonight."
It's not going to happen otherwise.
So I get many toddlers up to the age of 2, 3 years old, having up to 10 feeds at nightime.
And 10 feeds for a 2-3 month old child, they just don't need it.
And these kids are often iron deficient because
they're just not eating properly in the day.
So Elysha, if you need come back to me please do come back to me love,
and I want to help to get this sorted.
Because, waking up at night is just exhausting, particularly when your child is now 17 months old.
Ok so, Laura, I'm just going to say hello to Laura, out there with Matilda,
and I hope Matilda is doing really well.
Matilda had open heart surgery recently, hole in the heart and lots of other little things.
She's been a very brave little girl has Matilda.
So I just want to say hi to Matilda, and hope you're doing really well and on the mend.
And, the ignoring technique is great for escalations
and some cheeky little monkey behaviours.
So have a look at my blog Laura, on the ignoring technique,
and I know that Matilda is giving you the ignoring technique.
I think I'd play her game. So two can play at that game Laura.
So bring on the ignoring.
And it just gets rid of things really really quickly.
Never say obviously "I'm ignoring you". Just walk away, walk away, walk away.
Pick a book up, get engrossed in something, and the first good thing that you see Matilda do,
the first positive thing that you see her do, give labelled praise.
And that's what you do with ignoring.
So, let's come to all the rest of these questions.
Let me just go into my messenger and see what is coming though ...
Ok… so hopefully you're all keeping cool out there.
And I hope I've given you some really good answers out there ...
Let's just refresh this feed and see what's coming up today…
Okay… right… here…
So hello to Pia, Pia is here.
Who else is here?
Sophie's here as well, hello to Sophie.
I've got Kylie, hello Kylie.
I've got Jonathan Moore, goodness, all the way in the UK in the Yorkshire Dales so
Hi Jonathan.
Say hello to my sister, say hello to Freya and Tilly for me.
So Jonathan is Tilly and Freya's daddy and my sister's boyfriend/partner.
So hi Jonathan, hope you're enjoying this.
Would you love 41 degrees or 40 degrees Johnathan?
I'm sure you wouldn't.
Johnathan likes the snow.
He's happy in the snow.
Michelle. Hi Michelle your little ones.
And Belinda, I've said hello to Belinda before.
Bernadette. Hello Bernadette too, and Gemma over in Melbourne now…
Hope Melbourne's treating you well and it's cooler over there than what it is over here today.
Hello Melissa and Lauren and Christina and Katie and Mercy.
So we've got quite a few on here today.
Alrighty, so lets just go down and see what else people have been asking me today.
Okay… so… right a few in here. Someone sent me a question in from Instagram.
Says from Kylie.
"How can I stop my 2 year old coming into our bed every night, I have a 4 month old
who is still in our room, so Mr 2 year old wakes him up every time he comes in,
and throughout the night as 2 year old is such a restless sleeper.
I can't take him back to bed during the night as I need to tend to 4 month old."
Really common problem, ok.
So I'd be looking at putting a safety gate on 2 year old's room.
Because then you've got a delay.
I'd also put a safety gate on your room because then you've got a double delay.
So even if toddler could jump over said safety gate,
you've got 2 little barriers there.
Ok Kylie, so that will make a massive difference.
Then when you hear the gate rattling, wait a few minutes before you attend alright?
Don't worry about the shouting, because I'm sure that you know
you could probably close your door a little bit to keep your room a little more soundproof
and again use some white noise in your room to help mask out the shouting from 2 year old.
Then after 3 minutes of shouting and I mean constant shouting,
I want you to go to 2 year old, shoo him back in - I take it that he is in a bed.
So shoo him back into bed, and I want you to ask to get him, to go into bed himself.
So, "Into bed now. Into bed now."
So there's no please, there's no 5 star mummy in the middle of the night.
It is 3 star mummy.
Mummy who's tired. Mummy who needs toddler to get back into bed.
"Hurry into bed. Into bed'.
And then ask him if he's got doona or sheet,
to put the sheet back on himself.
Too often is what we do is we pick them up, put them into bed, and then we get the sheet
or the doona and we put it on them.
Then we create learned helplessness. They don't problem solve for themselves.
Really common problem.
So when you, when the toddler wants something, you get them to do it for themselves.
Then you sit there by the side of the bed,
till he's gone back to sleep again.
Now if this isn't practical because you've got a 4 month old who's wanting feeding,
put him back into bed, and say, "Mommy's going to come back in a few minutes."
Leave the room, go back to 4 month old,
and then in a few minutes go back to toddler just to make sure that he is asleep.
If he's not say, "Mommy's come back just to see how you're doing.
Right I'm going to come back in a few minutes time, ok."
And keep on doing this, ok.
So that will really help you.
Because once the toddler knows they are getting attended to
and that you will come back. So even if you can't stay there and sit on the chair, that's fine.
Just keep on going back and saying "Just coming to see how you're doing."
"Just got to feed your brother, right, back in a moment."
And then, when you go back just have a little check on him, and keep on doing this if you can do.
Ok. So hopefully that's helped you Kylie.
And say if toddler wants a bottle of, drink of water.
Then have a little bedside table. Put your water on the bedside table.
And when he asks for water, point to the water and say,
"Pick your bottle up, Pick your cup up. Drink your own, drink your water."
So you're telling him what to do.
So then you are not the person that's doing this for him.
He's going straight to him doing it for himself.
Ok.
Now under 3 years of age, toddlers can't problem solve.
They can't put blankets back on themselves, they can't work out how to get into bed
or pulling blankets up etc, so you need to direct them.
Ok, just put it as an instruction, tell them
what it it is you want them to do.
So that's how I manage a toddler and getting out of bed.
So I hope that has helped you.
Now I'm answering a question now next for Mercy before I come to Katie's question.
So Katie's also come to me through Instagram.
So hello people from Instagram!
So this is fascinating, I love the way this works!
There's Facebook, there's Instagram,
people have found me through Youtube!
I did a Skype recently to someone over in Prince Edward Island!
It's off the coast of Canada!
It's like a little little village-y place!
I couldn't believe it!
She was, "I just found you through Youtube Karen."
I was like, "Wow!"
So this world is now becoming a really small world, and I love it.
I love that I can work all across the world
and I do Skypes etc all over the world now.
You'd be shocked if you knew where I did Skypes to now.
So I can do a lot of work from my home, from my chair.
And it just, it just, it helps people, it's just amazing.
It is really really amazing.
And I can fix things through Skype, which, I never thought I could do 5 and a half years ago.
I never thought it would translate, but I think it's how you teach it.
And I've worked out it's how I teach stuff.
Some people in life are good at teaching, I've worked out that it is one of my strengths,
So amazing.
Life never fails to surprise you.
So Mercy asked me a question today about teething, and particularly when it comes to sleep training.
So, Mercy's boy was a shocker.
And I'm sure most of you would agree with me.
Jed was a shocker when it came to sleep.
Now, a lovely shocker, absolutely gorgeous boy, and, but his family was so exhausted.
I don't think I've seen many people so exhausted, apart from maybe Gabby that
I went to help after New Year.
And to give you a little bit of background.
So Jed has got really bad reflux, food allergies.
So when you've got reflux and food allergies you get over-servicing, because
you have to, because they're in pain.
And it is one of the hardest things, and so when you're doing sleep training you've
got to take away all these learned behaviours.
And these kids expect more than even the 5 star concierge.
Jed, that night when I went to help them, he cried for 4 hours.
4 hours.
4 hours.
I've never, I've only had one of those, once in 2 years.
He wasn't unwell, he wasn't teething, he didn't have a temperature.
He just had persistence because he got all this
learned behaviour.
He's now sleeping through the night.
Mercy and her husband are having date night on the couch.
They watch a movie.
They can watch a full movie.
They sleep through the night.
Jed is doing incredible.
He sleeps in the day now.
I went to see them, I think it's probably first week in January, second week in January,
something like that?
And this is just within 2 to 3 weeks, they're having bliss in their house.
So obviously you don't want to undo that when
doing the wrong thing when teething or illness happens.
So, what, the key things that I would avoid is: putting your
child into your bed.
Poor Arty did this recently, because she was so desperate and her child was so sick.
So next time Arty is going to put herself in the bedroom
on a mattress on the floor, just until the illness is gone, and then move back
through.
It's taken 9 days for Arty to undo that 1 week of bed sharing.
So anything you do for more than 7 days, more than a week, becomes a new learned behaviour.
So just be aware if you keep on doing something, having a child in your
bed, feeding them at night for more than 7 days when previously you haven't been doing
these things, then sleep will come undone.
But it's never comes undone permanently.
You just need to go back to the sleep training.
So say with teething, got a temperature, really cranky,
not happy, what would I do?
So I'd look at the usual amortesia?
I'd look Panadol and Nurofen.
If those don't work there is a company called Puraforce Remedies, actually really love these
products, and I've used them on my hardest of teethers.
It could be something that I might stock in the shop in the
future, and I have a box full of Karen's favourite things.
But Puraforce Remedies is a company over in, I think it's over in,
it's over in Victoria.
And I think it's over in Gambia or somewhere over that way.
So there something to know about is Puraforce Remedies.
Then you're looking at things like, you've got browers? you've got Highlands, and they
do homeopathic, the actual, the actual teething
gel.
Also as well I've been looking at acupressure.
So you've got a little acupressure point around the little pressure
bit of your hand, around your thumb and forefinger.
So just get your thumb and your forefinger and press that several
times a day.
That really helps teething.
Ok, that's a pain receptor.
—- Ok Claire I'm coming to you shortly Claire
don't worry I've not forgotten about any of you.
—- So that's what I want to look at with teeth.
So do the least you can get away with.
Try not to feed, try not put into your bed.
They're the 2 big undo-ers.
And just try and ride it through, and just re-settle the way I taught you Mercy.
So I would not like your sleep to come undone.
And if Jed misbehaves, I will be back tell Jed.
Yes, I will, I will Jed!
So Ok Mercy, don't worry I will never let your sleep come undone, I know how
bad it was for you.
So all those poor parents out there that I, that I
helped, I never never let your sleep come undone.
I'm the girl who wants to fix everything and help everybody.
So once I work with you, I give my all.
And I'm a dead giving sort of girl if I've got a well child as you can tell, 4 hours,
4 hours!
Me and Mercy are there going - 2 hours, most kids cry for 2 hours on sleep training.
After the second hour I'm going 'this doesn't look like it's stopping'.
I said 'Mercy, steal yourself, we've got another hour of this.
Just keep your thoughts together'.
Then we got to the end of 3 hours, and it was still going.
And I said 'Mercy, we have to do another hour'.
Oh it was so hard, and this was in the middle of
the night.
We then got a temperature, we'd given amortesia, he wasn't
teething.
When we took him out he went completely quiet, and that's how we knew it was behavioural.
So when you ta… so using, you know, checking out, is
something wrong?
So after 2 hours of crying, definitely check is something
wrong there?
Is the nappy leaking?
Are they too hot?
Check their temperature.
Are they in pain?
When you hold a child, when you feel them, you know when somethings
wrong.
a So I'd use those sort of things first.
But look at amortesia, took at homeopathic, Puraforce Remedies, Look at
acupressure during the day and at night time.
Water, if you're desperate.
But again don't do it for more than a week.
Avoid a feed.
Feeds and putting into your bed are the big ones.
But, if you have to, if all else is failing, then teeth don't
usually take more than a week to come through the worst bit, so hopefully that's helped
you Mercy.
So Jed - waving my wand, I'm on the case to you, and I'm
watching Jed.
He's so cute though.
So luckily!
[44:06] Alrighty so, next one I'm coming to is - Katie.
So Katie's come through Instagram.
She's got a 3 and a half year old.
"Won't go to bed without me.
If I'm not home it's fine and my husband can get her down.
If I'm home she only goes to bed in my bed with me.
I've tried everything.
Being nice, being harsh, compromise, bargaining, bribery.
I've ended up going to bed at 8.30 with her, and my husband
moves her when she goes to bed.
She wants to be attached to me 24/7 and won't let her dad do anything.
Ok.
Katie very common problem.
Do you live in Sydney Katie?
Do you live in Australia Katie, because I can come and help
you.
Because 3 and a half year olds are particularly tough.
And it's knowing how to do this.
Because it's only taken me 17 years doing sleep work to work all this stuff out.
But I fix things again like I say like nobody else can do.
I would do a Skype chat with me.
I think you need to know all my secrets, and it takes me
about 3 quarters of an hour to an hour to either do a Skype or a phone consult.
But that's the way I'd be going Katie with this.
I think it's too hard to answer through a Facebook Live.
You know, I haven't got another three quarters of an
hour unfortunately Katie, but you need help.
It isn't going to go away by itself.
I hope you live in Sydney, I hope you live in Australia, because then I'd absolutely
come and help you.
But if not, we'll do a Skype and lets sort this out.
I think you need a plan.
And you need a plan that works.
You need a plan that doesn't fail.
And my plans don't fail.
They fix the hardest of children, and I think I have a
lot of hope Katie that I can help you.
So I know I've not given you the answer, but I think you need to contact me for me
to give you the answer as to what to do.
Ok love.
So wave my wand, because unfortunately the wand will not fix it that
easily, so please contact me Katie.
Alright, so Melissa Sultana.
Hello Melissa are you still there Melissa?
Give me a like, and a thumbs up and a… is Melissa still there?
Katie, is it Katie or was that I question I answered before Katie…
3 and a half year old bed… right Katie, Katie.
So you've got 18 month old twins.
Ok absolutely Katie, I'll send you an email - lets talk ok?
Having twins, very very hard, and 18 month old twins, very
very hard.
And you've got a 3 and a half year old whose a little bit of a
cheeky monkey.
Yep, totally agree.
This needs a big help does this Katie, so looking forward to hearing from you.
Alright, Melissa, hello Melissa!
Are you still there Melissa?
Give me a wave or a thumbs up if you still are,
if not hopefully you'll still listen to this afterwards.
"Hi Karen my 7 and a half month old is waking between 4.30am and 5.30am
and has been doing so since 4 months.
How can I stop this now he is older?"
Ok, basically we need to look at how you're self settling in the first place.
I need to look at how you're resettling.
Again, this would take a phone consult or a Skype consult to do this.
It is not as easy as to say "This is what you need to do Melissa".
I wish it was, because then my job would be really really easy.
But again like I say, it takes me three quarters of an hour of doing
a Skype or phone consult to give you the answers.
Because it isn't just one thing.
And if we just look at one thing, it ain't gonna fix it.
So giving you a throw away line ...
Okay he's got a bottle to resettle.
Ok so that bottle needs to go.
Does he have a dummy Melissa as well?
Just waiting for Melissa to reply back to me … Hello Melissa, are you typing furiously?
Do you have a dummy as well or is it just the bottle?
Does the bottle have milk in it or is it just water?
Right no dummy, excellent.
Right so this will not be too hard then.
So basically when he's been crying for up to 3 minutes. Constant crying.
Go to him and I want you to use my method called parental presence because he's a boy
and he's 7 months old ... and a half month's old.
So boys of 7 months old are particularly tricky.
So you can't do a check in method, you can't do a controlled crying,
you can't do in and out stuff.
So I called, some people call controlled crying, the in and out stuff. I call it a checking method or comfort settling
where you go in, up to the cot and say 'Night night baby, time for sleep now
time for sleep now." Walk out. Blah blah blah blah blah …
. Then increase the time limit.
I wouldn't do that with him because of the age of him.
So looking at the age and gender - really important.
So I would do parental presence, wait 3 minutes of constant crying, go to him, sit in
the room, sit by the cot, and I want you to play dead.
Ok, I've got videos like I say in audio of what I consider to be crying.
What I consider to be constant crying, what I consider to be a pause.
So if you do a phone consult with me I'll give you all of that.
Otherwise, I've got to figure out what I think is 3 minutes of constant crying.
Go in, sit by the cot, put your hand in, play dead.
Do not talk to him, do not look at him.
And it might take 1-2 hours before he goes back off to sleep.
And you just don't give in.
You can do cuddles on night one.
Brief cuddles, 30 seconds no longer.
Don't overuse the cuddles.
When you pick him up, you don't pat or rock or anything.
Put him back down, he's going to roar his head off.
Sit. Get back on your chair. Don't say anything, no eye contact. Poker face. Play dead, mother sleep.
You are asleep.
And this could take up to 2 hours like I say.
And its normal.
And I might do a few cuddles, but it depends on the cry, the cry tells you what to do.
And like I say, I read crying like nobody else does.
So if you're not sure about this, if you're in Sydney get me to help you Melissa.
Otherwise do a phone consult with me or a Skype.
Because then you get the audio of what I consider to be a stress cry, what
I consider to be not a stress cry.
So you actually get to see inside my head and how I problem solve.
And I think for $150 it is a bargain.
Much cheaper than my overnight visit obviously.
So Melissa i hope that's helped you.
But just don't give in.
By night 3 or 4, it will get worse before it gets better.
So night 1's ordinary to say the least.
Don't get him up before 6 o'clock, re-settle all night waking before 6.
Night 2 can be slightly better, night 3 or 4 things can get worse before they get better.
Night 5 you should be starting to improve.
Night 7-10, you should be sleeping through.
But again it's based on how you do this, and how I do this will get those results.
Ok so Melissa, hopefully that will help you.
So waving the wand for you,
and this little cheeky monkey with his 4.30 waking.
But he's not going to stop it unless you help him to
stop that.
And at 7 and a half months of age, he doesn't need to have a feed.
I'm going to give you permission to stop this.
He'll eat more in the day, and that's what he should be doing.
So Clair. On to Claire next.
So I'm going to do another 5 minutes, and then we've got to finish because it's nearly an hour.
Ok and I've got loads more questions coming in.
"Hi Karen, any advice for an 8 month old
who whines all the way through dinner.
She's great with her food on the spoon, finger food with the spoon, but whines
between every mouthful. Makes mealtime quite intense" Oh totally!
"I can't tell if it's because of the taste, texture. I don't think it's because she's full
as it's through the whole meal. Thank you."
Alright, 8 month old whining all the way through dinner.
Wow, that's a bit challenging isn't it?
I'd be looking at ... Is she overtired?
Are you just giving finger foods Claire?
Or are you doing finger foods and spoon?
Sometimes it's wanting to be in control. So then I'd be looking at doing more finger foods
than spoon because when you look at attunement
So attunement is where you work your way around the problem rather than doing this stuff.
So with the spoon, it feels a bit of a control issue with some kids - so that could be the issue.
Now I've got a lovely video on my Instagram of a baby who is turning her head away from the spoon.
And it's probably on there from about a month ago, this little baby.
I think it's Bella on there.
Amazing video, and it just shows that that baby really doesn't want to be spoon fed.
So if they're turning away and doing this. Then that says finger foods to me.
Is is it not coming fast enough the spoon?
That could be an issue as well.
Are you eating with her?
That's all really really important.
Does she want more food?
Is she just overtire? Or meal times should have been earlier?
Some kids want food like yesterday.
Moving on to things like lumpy food, and I'd be giving things that you're eating as well.
But I think I need a bit more information Claire about what exactly is happening.
It might even be worth sending me a video
and getting me to have a look at that for you.
Don't send me a huge video because obviously I don't have heaps of time.
Do you live in Sydney, Claire?
Do you live anywhere near Bondi?
Because I'm at Basger's every Wednesday so that's an option.
So you can bring things in there to show me.
Because like I say Karen and technology… So I hope that's given you a few ideas
Claire as to what, what it could be.
And I've got heaps of blogs as well about kids with problem eating around 8 months of age.
Kids refusing to sit in the high chair, so there's a few little ideas on that blog about Xander
and refusing to sit in the high chair.
But I think they're some of the things that I'd be looking at Claire, so I hope that's helped you.
Alrighty, so anything else from anybody else?
No okay right everybody's, right excellent.
So we're all good.
Just to remind you that to be included in the competition to win this lovey prize,
of the Massage book and the Help I'm a New Mum book,
you have to like this video, this post.
And we're going to be drawing it by Friday.
And it is a great competition to win.
This has got lots of all my top secrets and really important things in.
Great Claire, yep read the blog, and send me a video. Absolutely.
Ok so thank you all for coming today.
If I've not got round to your questions I will start on them next week.
Eventually I think some of these things will have to go into a Youtube because there's
so many questions out there, but I love answering them.
So have a lovely week.
'Like' this post today, like this video, and you'll get put in the draw.
So, oh Pia! Excellent, you got some success with Leo's sleep
by moving the white noise outside his room!
"Thanks for the advice last week".
No problem Pia, absolutely welcome.
So yeah asking me questions on here can really save you a lot of heartache and pain,
because I can problem solve, and I'm one of the best problem solvers I know.
Ask me a question and I will come up with quite a few answers for you.
So I would use my 28 years of knowledge, and it's like a cheat sheet.
So hi to Johnny, bye to Johnny and Lesley and the kids.
And hopefully you have enjoyed this Jonny and hopefully
there's going to be some more snow for you.
And thank you everybody for watching, have a fabulous week.
Keep cool, and I hope to see your babies and children all sleeping well
and tune in for some more next week, and for some competitions.
So bye from Karen!
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