you
hey thank you can you hear me all right okay okay good just the one hour right
okay so again as it says advice from the garage masculinity reexamined and as I
was perusing for images obviously this one popped up and I'm like I just
absolutely have to use this one so but thanks again for inviting me here to
ruminate further on a topic of really great interest to me up front let me say
though that the subtitle of the talk is masculinity re-examined just re-examined
I'm not going to claim that I'll resolve this issue tonight or even define the
term adequately enough for you as Judith mentioned I spent 14 weeks last semester
teaching this course or what I've done is boiled 14 weeks into one hour so
again we'll get as many answers as we can some of the students in that class
however are here tonight and so they'll be quite helpful won't they notice how
quiet it suddenly got alrighty well again hopefully we'll create a dialogue
that will continue well beyond this room for years to come to keep this
conversation alive and changing ever for the better the study of masculinity has
really only been around for the past couple of decades believe it or not but
also too if we think about a gender and Women's Studies has only been around for
about 40 years as disciplines within academia and so excuse me many many
scholars have started writing about it but again not necessarily to define it
rather to determine better how to talk about it so we might someday come to a
better understanding as to what masculinity zhh plural are for example
Michael Kimmel the famous sociologist on masculinity recently came out with the
third edition of his book manhood in America 2012 but it was first published
in 1998 and the book blurb claims and this is a really good way to start to
talk for more than three decades the woman's
movement and its scholars have exhaustively studied women's complex
history roles and struggles in manhood in America author Michael Kimmel argues
that it is time for men to rediscover their own evolution drawing on a myriad
of sources he demonstrates that American men have been eternally frustrated by
their efforts to keep up with constantly changing standards Kimmel contends that
men must follow the lead of the women's movement which by the way includes men
and women it is only by mining their past for its best qualities and worst
excesses that men will free themselves from the constraints of the masculine
ideal not to free them from masculinity but again from the constraints of the
masculine ideal and again we'll pick that apart as we talk further and again
if I ever go awry I'm sure any of my students will be like hey we didn't talk
about that so I'm not to that part of the lecture yet by the way you're
prominently featured later hi Luke so again it's those constraints that we're
gonna work on why is it that men feel the need to be masculine and that only
they can be masculine but what again what does that mean and does it only
apply again to members of the male persuasion well as I hope to show it was
written with this particular men must be in charge I deal in history and part
went looking for it but at history left out a lot of men and women who were in
fact masculine but it is those constraints of the masculine ideal what
Kimmel would also refer to as the stereotypical yet dominant form and view
of masculinity so let's reread that history not change it I mean it did
happen after all but read deeper into it to truly see masculinity for what it was
the best and the worst but also can now become Judith halberstam wrote a book on
female masculinity and and will be much more on that a little bit later but she
wrote what is masculinity if masculinity is not the social and
cultural and indeed political expression of maleness then what is it are you not
claimed to have any definitive answer to this question but I do have a few
proposals about why masculinity must not and cannot and should not reduce down to
the male body and its effects so in reexamining this topic we must
first take it apart look at its historical moments its internal workings
its external expert appearances and finally instead of putting it back
together as it was or as it appeared it was keep putting the pieces of this
puzzle together in different ways to come to a picture that we like sort of
like an Escher puzzle right where the pieces can go into each other spots and
yet we still have a very much same or similar image you know pieces in
different places different colors in fact a different image in the same
puzzle or as the top image shows an evolution of images moving and melting
into and out of one another yet with similar purposes along their own paths
again as we mentioned I taught this course last semester and it really did
provide a very interesting platform for all sorts of these types of discourse
and discussions to take place and several of the student contributions you
will also see tonight in this presentation I was very proud of the
work that they put into this brand-new course and into a topic that you know
again with in general and studies could be difficult I saw that fist-bump
students you know you got to watch him every minute so we're gonna look at this
somewhat overlooked topic of masculinity now you might be saying overlooked well
in a sense yes go back to the quotes I just mentioned there are many
assumptions about the term because we seem to know I know I hate air quotes
too but we seem to know what the term means but there's so much more
discussion in academia about how to view and define femininity I mean look at
this time magazine cover very recently this was just February 8th just very
recently and and through a toy okay but when GI Joe underwent a significant
change not as much discussion happened so the 60s and 70s GI Joe 12-inch figure
this is what he looked like I had one of these when I was a child then he became
this I mean the clothes don't even come off
like this one I mean these they're melted onto him I mean it's all part of
the bulky muscular because for the old GI Joe when the clothes came off nobody
complained about that body shape or shapes or
sorry about all the the nudity there are now men in masculinities Institute's
there are men's rights groups which claimed that the softening of America
through feminism has undercut masculinity there's female masculinity
gay masculinity metrosexuality retro sexuality effeminate men masculine women
of the list goes on so these are just some of the discussions will engage in
this evening again I'm just here to kind of get us to start thinking about this
topic that we tend often not to put conscious thought into again because of
the assumptions I took my talk from the title of this book
advice from the Attic perilous pearls of wisdom on Beauty charm and etiquette by
Monica Dale and I just want to read a few examples and these are real 19th
early 20th century etiquette books for women and how they should behave there
are some persons who spray when they talk this is very annoying to their
associates friends speak about the necessity for carrying an umbrella when
around Mary Mary knows that she has this affliction but has it never occurred to
her to cure herself to obviate this difficulty all Mary would have to do
would be to talk more slowly and be very careful when saying words that begin
with the letters B and P and perhaps with a c d e f g h i j k l m n o QRS TUV
wxy and possibly z with those exceptions she could speak with these and give no
thought to the showers or for a woman to persist in wearing her hair short unless
there's some special necessity for it shows a perverted taste woman de tracks
from her charm just insofar as she tries to look like a man right so again we're
looking at these comparisons this dichotomy but now you know women wear
pants today is an automatic default to masculinity
if a man wears a dress he is a crossdresser crossing gender and sex
boundaries but if a woman wears pants well she's a woman wearing pants she's
stylish he's weird but wait this isn't always the case ancient Roman men and
women wore togas which were dressed like Joan of Arc was prosecuted and executed
for wearing pants this is what she was again condemned for unheard of in the
19th century for the most part for women to wear pants but now is standard but
again isn't it just a pair of pants see how we can sometimes get so focused on
defining and mapping out how gender must be that we sometimes lose sight of the
change pants are comfy better suited for certain situations jeans more than
slacks but on occasion we still hear the expressions of someone saying to another
man put on your man pants who wears the pants in the family
right we're still gendering pants again we tend to associate these etiquette
books with women but not with men there's that unspoken assumption about
how men should act right if anything Father's will teach sons but it's an
understood way but women would need a book but also why the Attic what do we
store in attics old things we keep out of sentimentality nostalgia things often
associated with the histories of our families and I'll admit when I have a
question I do first go to my mother and ask her about the history whereas the
garage seems to also hold such things but maybe more current things may be a
little less organized as stereotypically again maybe like a man's gym bag or
stereotypically as sometimes I've been accused of my mind I'm being a bit
facetious here okay but how did two seemingly common rooms of a house become
so gendered the Attic towards women and femininity the garage to men and
masculinity but for the most part notice the terms I've been using man woman male
female these are more biological terms masculine feminine are gendered terms
and as scholars have come to discuss gender is much more fluid for as many
people that are in this room I truly believe are as many genders in this room
if we open up that discussion again that multiplicity will grow but again
masculinity tends to be overlooked because I said it's an assumed
afterthought that we know that these ideas about masculinity and men are
hardwired this brings me into my first clip mm-hmm I want to show you and this
is from Bill Engvall he's a comedian with the Blue Collar Comedy Tour and he
constantly talks about the differences between men and women and in Part II
talks about them in this idea of being hardwired and hopefully this is still
where I had it apparently not oh maybe
don't worry this won't take long to find
again listen to what he's talking about in this again this idea of hardwired
right that biological ideal versus the gendered which is kind of a socially
constructed ideal that we'll be looking into
am I about to hit a button or something or okay just checking
um you'd all like the white screen right I'm nothing if not accommodating
I think the biggest difference between men and women is this men are basic just
basic there's not a whole lot of frills that's why ladies when you ask the
fellow question a lot of times the answer you get is hmm basic
women are details detail detail detail yeah hearing garage and you know got the
details do not talk to a woman I'll give you a great example my friend Joey and I
were working out at the gym the other day Joey says to me hey man I'm getting
a divorce and I said all that sucks can you spot me that was our home
I understood it he understood it so I go home and I tell my wife I go hey Joey's
getting a divorce oh my god what happened
she said what do you mean who was he cheating on her was she cheating on him
I said again baby I don't know I'm not holding anything back here you got a
better chance to getting the answer out of the dog and that's when it hit me
that's why dogs don't talk they blur
she said bill how can somebody tell you they're getting a divorce and you don't
ask any questions and I said baby because he didn't ask me a question all
right what he said was a statement he said I'm getting a divorce which said to
me I have the situation hand and require no further input on your part now had
Joey said what do you think about me getting a divorce then I would have said
well you're gonna be dating again you need to work on your abs so again right
you can see how he's kind of you know building on this the stereotypical
construct of men and women and the differences and you know and building
off of Bill and his you know jokes you know he's talking about this idea of men
being hardwired kind of as these in almost insensitive jerks but you know
how then would he rework that to understand masculinity that actually
would benefit them that they would just become sensitive jerks but part of his
jokes trust me there are hardwired things right Anatomy items Adam's apples
are usually more prominent in men facial hair for men grows quite quickly it must
be maintained or is that groomed which one is the more masculine term but is it
masculine to have one or not in ancient Greece yes in ancient Rome no
the Middle Ages it depended if you live during the Carolingian era 750 to 950
mustache only the kings before them said beards absolutely and beards down to
your feet different versions so as you can see again his perception is based in
part on how women see men as well for masculinity it's not just men mm-hmm
masculinity also can be seen to have this component of being constructed by
women and how they see men and while I won't get into it here tonight there as
we saw in the class there's also all sorts of other discussions based on
class race sexual orientation again you know different components but I'm going
to kind of keep it more the binary for tonight so how do we all
see each other and specifically tonight in terms of masculinity have we made any
progress in the recent decades with respect to opening up masculinity or
have we regressed as opposed to progress or have we just plain dressed breasts
comes from the Latin word Gretta or which means to take steps but that could
mean forward it could mean backward it could mean sideways okay it just
means to take steps so let's look at a few instances of history and how
masculine was understood understood to help focus our attention and then to
bring us up to today and again in a way to try to understand how we seem to have
come to a sense of prescriptive behavior as in the sense of masculine behavior
must be performed this way versus descriptive behavior which means
masculinity has been performed and actually done this way okay and in a
multiplicity of fashions there there's a quote from Star Trek Voyager that I
really love and again it applies to all the genders in this room infinite
diversity in infinite combinations for when we dig into the history we find
that the stereotypes can be found there but so are the exceptions that truly
just might be more than norm so we're gonna move to ancient Greece are you
ready buckle up I don't see you putting on you
come on seat belts what it meant to be a man and again notice the term I'm using
here was a male who stood up for his polis a city state voted fought for it
produced heirs and loved other men because only men were capable of real
love emotionally spiritually sexually and that women were incapable of love of
that magnitude women could love their husbands but it wasn't a pure love like
that of man for man that would be as close to masculinity as we might come to
define for ancient Greece because again they're not as focused on sexuality as
we are today it was also on display in their art as you can see here men were
depicted nude women were not women were usually depicted clothed okay and the
idea here is what you're seeing in this perfectly sculpted body is that you were
also seeing a perfectly sculpted mind they went hand in hand for ancient Greek
men and masculinity and it's just very fortunate that the statute he's also
pointing at his head I did look and so again within here right we have a man
and a woman she is clothed he is not and again that was the standard
understanding for masculinity and femininity so we also see it in a
sculpture called the Torana sides these were two men a teacher and a student who
were also lovers and a tyrant wanted to steal the student away and together the
two of them were so in love they fought side by side to the death for one
another because of their intense love for one another
but it's also a signification of ideal masculinity and democracy this statue
was put up all over greece representing democracy that's what people saw when
they saw this statue of course in later times as slightly more prudish attitudes
came in they had to be covered up obviously not as much but they were
covered up but they were also found on ancient Greek coins you can see them
here in the corner so it's a very powerful masculine image for ancient
Greece for those of you have seen the movie 300 came out several years ago
Xerxes the Persian king nine feet tall all covered in bling well it seems like
he's a rather extravagant form of masculinity but to the Greeks he was a
barbaric masculine individual right that he was not being represented because
he's partially clothed he shouldn't be but who is his navel
worship commander over one thousand ships and their battles with the Greeks
they may know there'll be a quiz later so I'm just you know prepping you
Artemisia a woman
masculine/feminine strong leader leader is a genderless term except we still
tend to view leadership as masculine Halberstam and female masculinity raised
this issue she wrote masculinity in this society inevitably conjures up notions
of power and legitimacy and privilege so from Artemisia sper spective is she
masculine I'll leave that for you and part of that quote with the word power
in it it's also the reason I wore this tie tonight which has an outlet and a
plug and on the cord of the plug it says the answer is more power right
and of course right there's the gendered constructions for the cord and the
outlet from medieval Europe and again this is my point of study so I'm just
gonna talk about medieval Europe a lot tonight so either you're welcome or
tough you know we'll work with either the Bible was the focus as the church
had control over much of the political and intellectual landscape as well as
religious Eve was created from Adam this man was to be obeyed with their
expulsion we see that their punishments are also gendered farming for Adam
childbirth for Eve however the first time we encounter the creation story in
the Bible it merely says God created them male and female Genesis 1:27 sounds
rather equal the pronouns tend to bend toward he created them in His image for
God but the later more descriptive portion where this is you know where Eve
is created from the rib comes in Genesis to rabbi to Lucian wrote a book called
biblical literacy the most important people events and ideas of the Hebrew
Bible and and with the creation of Eve last
toluse can asks a very interesting question is such an explanation of
woman's creation demeaning to women on the one hand the claim that man was
created first and formed out of a part of him might suggest the male's inherent
superiority which is how medieval male theologians were interpreting that and
utilizing that for the masculine / feminine male / female ideals on the
other hand the fact that every new creature and this is Toulouse Caen every
new creature depicted in the divine creation is more
highly developed than the one that preceded it might indicate that woman
who is last to be created represents the apex of creation therefore more
masculine or is that that feminine then takes that place right in any event Tolu
chigan finishes the account in chapter 1 which states that both sexes are created
in God's image clearly suggests that they are equal in God's eyes I'm also
currently reading as Judith mentioned earlier I'm reading a biography of the
Queen Mother right now the mother of the current queen elizabeth ii the queen
mother died in 2002 at one point in her letter she's writing a letter during
world war ii and she says quote the war has disrupted social norms more and more
women went to work so even she is seeing a form of masculinity that is in her
writings as her writings seem to indicate is subverted by this disruption
of social norms with women working in men's jobs sort of how we were
discussing briefly you know the anvil clip and how he's thinking about this
hardwiring but we could almost say that World War two did help us to disrupt the
discourse of masculinity and show how leadership privilege and legitimacy
halberstam terms were a realm for men and women right we've seen this image
it's very prominent image we still see it today and it's many manifestations
Luke the independent the school newspaper here when recruiting for new
staff for new you know students to work there created a poster and again later
the star of the poster is sitting right back there
he'll be happy to sign copies for you later Luke was in my class and again I
hope you don't mind Luke but this is a it's a it's a marvelous example but when
you present it on the poster in class right you said that you hadn't quite
realized the masculinity discourse of this you just thought you were taking a
picture of you is Rosie the Riveter right that there wasn't anything
connected with masculinity or femininity but the course then brought up all of
these conversations right of a man forming rosy but he said no one had said
anything about it to him before when they were putting this all together it
just seemed natural Judith Butler another prominent scholar talks about
performativity in gender not about acting in a play performing but how we
do it every day right so my tie would seem to be me performing a masculine
piece of clothing right and I do it because I'm in countering and engaging
with students every day as part of that authority figure I deal maybe not
necessarily the masculine ideal but certainly Authority so my performance
changes it changed tonight when all of you came in the room and you saw you
know I was wearing a tie but you saw that it also is connected to the talk my
masculine performance shifted again and this is what Judith Butler's time oh we
change and shift daily so your gender tonight's gonna be different tomorrow
somehow someway maybe maybe not right so she but she's because she's learnt
largely looking at interactions right but it can also happen just on your own
so but again it's performing your masculinity your femininity your
identity and again women throughout all history have always been working
agrarian to industrial but how is it that the norm again is gendered toward
the masculine as such why must that external attribute define us and why -
can it not be applied across genders justice femininity can be for men but
usually when that has happened it's interesting that it gets renamed Judith
halberstam wrote a book female masculinity I haven't really seen a book
yet on male femininity what I have seen is the word metrosexual right
metrosexual men are men who are comfortable with their feminine sides
but you can't use the word feminine in the description you have to use the word
Metro which means City urban life which is also gendered toward the masculine
okay again like the gendered construct of the garage and you know and on one
other quick note - connection with this the use of eyeliner by men has been
termed guyliner it can't even just be eyeliner I kid you
not because over here as you can see it says because guys need their own type of
makeup so but here it's Captain Hook Jack Sparrow can swashbuckle without guy
liner and this is part of the metrosexual discussion again I do not
want to say that the history by men has caused all of these types of
constructions right it's it's multiple levels of society class race orientation
we need to simply look at how we have in fact examined the history to say this is
how masculinity developed and how masculinity should be back to the Middle
Ages for a moment you knew it was coming I mean I love the stuff the medieval
knight in shining armor who rescues the damsel in distress is not even a
medieval construct it was created later to describe the Middle Ages to make sure
we understood that they obeyed the masculine constructs of a knight in
shining armor rescues a damsel in distress no I've been studying the
Middle Ages for 30 years there are Knights there are women but
the damsel again that construct is more 18th century in fact many of the women
in the Middle Ages fought in battles many women in the Middle Ages kidnapped
men to force them to marry them and yet the terminology still used to describe
them as gendered King Henry ii fought battles with his wife Queen Eleanor of
Aquitaine Queen Eleanor of Aquitaine resisted him in battle well that's what
I read a lot of the times in these documents but no she fought him she was
an amazing fighter and from jail he had put her in prison so he could have an
affair with another woman and she still fought battles and nearly beat him every
time and if you want a really good Hollywood depiction of this see the
movie lion in winter at Peter O'Toole and Katharine Hepburn amazing film I
adore that film if you ask any of my students in here they get tired of me
saying that and probably seeing it because I show it
as much as I can so again we still do it in language right and again that that's
why I'm not going to offer a definition of masculinity for you just some
suggestions for how we can see in our conversations look to the obvious yet
overlooked ways we talked about it during the NFL playoffs the Carolina
Panthers were known for giving a child in the stands of football after a
touchdown during one playoff game with the first touchdown they gave a football
to a little girl the next time to a little boy however the announcer said
that young man will remember that for as long as he lives just as earlier that
little girl will you see how we're shifting the masculine discourse okay
but we don't necessarily notice it again the obvious but overlooked we still
create these imbalances in perception when Cam Newton lost the Super Bowl any
Broncos fans in here by the way I just thought okay I figured as much
he left his conference after only his press conference after only a few
moments and he was considered a poor loser and a pouty child which is a
genderless term he's no longer than masculine quarterback he is a genderless
child right but when Ronda Rousey who lost to Holly
Holmes later admitted to suicidal thoughts people had sympathy for her
many sports riders looked at this as being again gender biased you know men
must man up she has what some call a masculine body because people identify
those muscles with men with masculinity yet she's also supposed to remain
feminine but why these strict binaries external and internal you know and look
at her arms right they're strong they're built they're powerful but does that
mean they need to be masculine or feminine or simply powerful again but as
we discussed with Harbor stem masculinity tends to lead to the idea of
power I mean think about it right and this is gonna be very personal I hope
you don't mind here's my arm check that thing out right
I would probably not call this masculine I mostly would call it not in attendance
either but I wouldn't call it masculine but I'm also not going to call it
feminine right because we tend to take feminine to mean non masculine okay
rather instead right can't we just look at and say hey that's a pretty sexy or
cartoonish arm whichever you prefer right masculine feminine sexy cartoon
gay men are often considered effeminate therefore not masculine USERRA 200 lo of
the NFL would disagree with you this is him with his husband and his
children I'm not telling him he's a feminine female masculinity female by
definition does not mean masculine again Judith Halberstam book would disagree as
I've already discussed her book brought to the fore these discussions and truly
opened up how we talk about masculinity in light of biological sex power
legitimacy as well as history and over there left you can see the cover of her
book and then I just found that Tina Fey cover just recently with the again the
man arms so she's kind of crossing boundaries here isn't she at the Screen
Actors Guild Awards every one male and female are called actors the opening of
the show hi I'm so-and-so I got into the business by doing this I'm an actor and
proud of it male or female they say I am an actor not actress or outdoor but the
categories are still best female actor in a fill-in-the-blank male actor by
sexing the categories then again we're recreating the masculine feminine
dichotomy but gender along with race are still factors in the industry that we're
gonna be dealing with again you're the Oscars are on Sunday and again race is a
big component of that show and just to complicate matters just a little further
I mean wouldn't be any fun if I didn't do that
1982 the movie the year of living dangerously Linda hunt plays the male
photographer Billy Kwan a role for which hunt won the 1983 Academy Award for Best
Supporting Actress Eddie Redmayne has been nominated for
this year's Oscars for a transgendered woman in the Danish girl in the best
male actor category fluidity to say that there's only one way to define
masculinity I don't think so so again hopefully you can see that we really do
need to re-examine and re-examine and if I haven't mentioned it re-examine men
are strong so are women is strength than just a masculine construct or is it a
human construct there are masculine attributes that we
tend to identify but must they be confined by the male sex as Judith
Halberstam asked and as I've been thinking about this talk for quite a
while when Judith first asked me to do this every night I would go to bed turn
off the lights pull up the covers two minutes later I would jump out of bed
because I had another idea to write about for this talk it just consumed me
right even after a semester of this class it just the ideas just continue to
erupt and so finding a definition was getting harder and harder I think it's a
good thing doesn't mean we cannot come to some understanding no but we do need
to at first break those old stereotypes and begin to see each other for who and
what we are as we perform our gender and see ourselves as masculine feminine
human we can certainly come to some commonalities but does that mean has to
be total agreement differences are good but it isn't how we express those
differences that can make pardon the expression a difference I know a PhD and
and I use the same word three times my students get in trouble for that
I'm surprised not one of them spoke up their heads are doing this though
there are two main quotes though that I kept coming to Frank burns from mash and
I know that Frank intends right for us all to act the same but over the years
I've come to read this a little bit differently
and I have two clips for you to emphasize my point they both come from
Android phone commercials I am NOT a spokesman for them I'm not trying to
sell you their products it's just that their commercials worked really really
well so the first one is a clip where there are two pianos when it's monotone
one that is not obviously the monotone one I believe is Frank's piano the multi
one is the one I would recommend hopefully this'll work
again right as you saw 88 keys for Frank they're all individual keys but let's
all do it together in the exact same manner whereas we can all be similar
looking keys but we can all have signed different notes all these different
genders with different notes all right and but still we can play great
different tombs right every day we can come back to the same tone right but
we're still all being our own so mm-hmm the next clip then too I think is
helpful and this is just a minute long so remember back in school when you're
either invited the new kid over to your table where you didn't
if you did that was a cool move that was an ant move and moves take guts but they
can mean everything there and moves to put wings on a bicycle now we fly when
enough people have an and view the world changes forever
if you think about you're only here because of an and moment opening
yourself up isn't easy when you do it's hard to forget because it leads to
something new something better that's why we need this and this and then and
you yeah you watching this right now because everyone doing the same thing
won't move us forward everyone doing their own thing together can't
and be together not the same however lately more and more though we are
seeing some backlash to what would be called a renewed masculinity others are
calling it a reversion to femininity that men have lost their masculinity
some men's rights groups claim that feminism has reduced men to shameful
shells of themselves they go out into woods to have drumming ceremonies go
shirtless to shout to grunt to reclaim that masculinity so again remember when
I asked the beginning as to how we have breasts is it regressing is it a
reexamination or reapplying of old stereotypes that can in fact sometimes
be harmful and that the last clip that I'll show you what will bring that into
more perspective but why does fear about losing masculinity we hardly have ever
discussed it before but now to reclaim it without truly reexamining it might
cause more tension and misunderstanding about it this seems like a pulling away
as opposed to a coming together right some scholars have looked at the
economic decline in 2009 where men lost jobs were no longer the breadwinners and
that that aspect of masculinity created some of it but by re-examining and
redefining these self-identified masculine roles can expand recreate so
again let's not redefine masculinity around it to reclaim some sort of power
in that sense of legitimacy that halberstam was talking about but to
reclaim another masculinity and again a masculine not the one and only
masculinity plural masculine --'tis i can't stress that enough but as part of
that site backlash man can whine in a can
mr. gamma is another student's project their motto whack it back I like to sip
my wine but it looks like a can of beer fine but why does that then need to
define masculinity this could be just it's practical right if you want to take
wine on a rafting trip or a tubing trip right you put those cans in the water to
keep it cold a bottle might not make it the cans will make it a little dented
but they'll make it but again instead of saying that's
masculinity why don't we just say it's practicality okay and as I kept looking
for man canned stuff these two quotes kept coming up I couldn't get away from
them so I thought well then neither will you
so you're welcome all right good man can make you feel sexy and strong and able
to take on the world oh sorry that's wine wine does that and then from
Rudyard Kipling a man can never have too much red wine too many books or too much
ammunition the students in my class really did help me with my own concepts
of masculinity in the world but also in myself for those of you who do not know
me I am a gay man who is masculine who is feminine I'm also a cook I'm also a
very very bad golfer and I epitomize the following I'm not kidding mm-hmm I'm a
feminist a lover of old movies of art fine wine of ties as we've been
discussing all night I have 879 ties in my collection right
now I know it's a small collection but it's growing it'll get there I promise
you I love football games I love basketball March Madness is coming but
even my gay friends have some backlash about my masculinity and how I perform
it they don't understand why I enjoy these manly read straight sports and not
more gay things but being a masculine gay man being means being able to enjoy
football basketball but overall it appears I enjoy masculine and feminine
things whatever those might be masculine can mean power but let's not
automatically default to the idea then that the feminine must mean weak or
powerless it is also power the two ideas need not be binary opposites how about
instead of contradictory binaries we have complementary binaries the times
are changing right you know I quoted Kimmel at the beginning of the talk it
is only by mining men's pass for its best qualities and worst
excesses that men will free themselves from the constraints of the masculine
ideal this next clip I think will bring pretty much everything together that
I've been trying to offer you tonight this was also part of a presentation a
student did in my class and I really again want to quickly here thank them
for all they taught me last semester and and then also gave me the privilege of
them speaking with you tonight about this topic this comes from a an
organization excuse me who put together a video of what did it mean to be a man
in 2015 and they're the first part of the video clip they ask some hard
questions about these masculinities again plural and then again the shifting
in the masculinity and then I promise after this will almost be done your mom
wants you to marry and this is a guy you got to run off to and read him to be
with him
nice package
you've called women you don't like fat pigs dogs slobs and disgusting animals
totally Rosie O'Donnell in an appearance on Russian television
tarpor chef referred to Sarina and sister Venus as the Williams brothers I
don't believe that in draping and some of them really is unbreakable students a
part of the Sigma Nu fraternity were behind these banners hope your baby girl
is ready for a good time
I really hope that eventually we never have a place in the NFL for people that
strike a one you're a feminist yep and you are a man yeah all those things you
know having some traits that are traditionally masculine doesn't exclude
me from wanting gender equality but this is an issue that only mothers should
have to think about family leave should be thought of as an option for both
parents I don't want to take any stereotypical yab roles like where this
is where my position stops and where my wife's positions start
I'm proud to call them my mother I'm proud to be your son
you made me the man that I am today
the most important thing that I could do with my daughter is lead our life with
love not success not fame big guys cry we do big guys are sensitive
what a good man man a service who persevered because he believed his
efforts would deliver a better life but those who followed sometimes I think
that's the best thing to hope for when you're eulogized just say somebody was a
good man
so ultimately I'm not saying stay out of the garage
we need the garage for many things park your car fix a bicycle chain
some people have washer dryers in there play music think about the many bands
that came out of garages built computers created animation and try not to name
names cuz after the whole Android thing I don't want to get into any more
copyright or you know sales issues but sometimes it's just a place to get away
and re-examine so go to the garage or go to the attic the kitchen the bedroom or
the room where all the major thinking happens the bathroom and continue the
conversation but continue the re-examination of what masculinity is
canon might be in all of its glorious forms thank you
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