Listen how's your new your coming out so far
statistics show that 95% of the people that actually made a new year's
resolution have already broken it by today
I mean think about it most people don't even make a resolution anymore why
because they've made them from years and years and years and they know they're
not gonna follow through so after a while who wants to disappoint yourself
who wants to be upset with yourself why even bother to set a new standard for
this year you know it's gonna be the same as last year
so the question is you know what is it that makes us even want to make a
resolution
it goes beyond tradition it's something inside of us that makes us want to make
things better and I think part of it is the calendar gives us this idea that we
could have a fresh start that we get a start from fresh and have this great
victory let's use the calendar to serve you today let's just see what does it
really take to make this thing happen because there's no denying that inside
of you the only thing that's going to make you happy and the your head and the
decades ahead it's going to be having you up an experience where on a regular
basis you feel like your life is making progress so the secret to real happiness
is progress
progress equals we can make progress on a regular basis
we feel alive and that's why at the beginning of the year we get this thing
like okay I can have this fresh start I could really do what my soul desires I
could expand I could grow I can improve I could change or maybe better than
change I could progress
so if you want to make real progress then you really got to look at your life
in a different way you gotta say I gotta take control of this process and not
just hope that's going to work out like people do who make a resolution cuz
really isn't that what they're really doing at the beginning of the year
they're saying well here's my resolutions for the year and they really
basically tell you their wishes it's their wish list it's what they hope it
all comes together and then they call it a resolution but they don't know what a
resolution is when you resolve something true have a resolution is to resolve it
when you've resolved this is how it's going to be that's when you cut off any
possibility except the thing you've committed to
you're going to find a way to make things work and most people they're
stating what they hope will come together and if it doesn't happen then
they're disappointed but they're not too disappointed because they're not too
vested what does it take to successfully create a lasting change in your life to
not only have a new year's resolution you follow through on but really have a
lasting chain the first step for lasting change is very much like making a new
year's resolution fundamentally it's the same the first step is you've got to
have a vision a vision for what it is you really truly want
I mean what are most people's New Year's resolutions I'm gonna stop eating sugar
you know I'm gonna stop smoking I'm gonna lose ten pounds probably that is
it's not very inspiring for most people you know it's not telling you what
you're gonna get it's only what you're not gonna do it's kind of hard to have
you move forward with that a vision is about what you're here to create a
vision that really works is one that excites you
if you say well my my resolution my goal my how come for this month this week
this year is to lose X number of pounds that's okay but it's not very compelling
it has to be a compelling vision it's gotta have something has the power to
pull you not something you have to push yourself to do so the two different
kinds of motivation push requires willpower and willpower never last what
will last is pull having something so exciting so attractive so some of you
desire so much that you have a hard time going to sleep at night and get so up
early in the morning to a rocket and take it to the next level that's what
you're looking at great that wasn't easy to get
in the bottom line of our follow-through comes down to our emotional intensity
you gotta have strong enough reasons that you're going to follow through when
the going gets tough
they don't have strong enough reasons to push themselves through what's gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that goal
when the inevitable challenges come up when you're starving hungry and you're
trying to go on a diet right when you got no time you're stressed out and you
haven't worked out still and that's what you're supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you're going to do doesn't work and so you give
up on the goal instead of finding another way to get there you don't let
the fear take you over if you've got strong enough reasons reasons come first
answers come second if you've got a compelling vision and you got strong
enough reasons that will push you through the tough times you're gonna do
things other people don't do is that a collapsing even if you get off target
you won't go oh I blew it you'll get right back on target make the change
make things happen
you you
when you really get clear and it's compelling and you're reviewing it every
day got strong reasons you're viewing it
every day and you're feeling it the brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move forward
you know what do people do with New Year's resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it's not a compelling vision they don't really have
strong enough reasons and they never review it again and tell them notice
that they broke what they said they really want to have make happen because
they didn't really resolve
if you resolve and got the vision it's compelling we review it daily and you
feel it you envision it and you experience it simple as it sounds
now ultimately what is this really about bolts in the way if you're gonna have
lasting change in anything you're really talking about just raising your
standards
raise your standards what does that mean corny as it sounds
raise your standards well thank you for the breakthrough thought Tony
blasting change is different than involved you don't always get your goals
but you always get your standards
but when you decide something as a must for you and absolute must when you cut
off any possible you say I'm gonna find the way I'm gonna make the way human
beings when they resolve things may I make a real resolution inside themselves
which is they raise the standard and they make it a must they find the way
and you say septum work hard to stop smoking but you know
I'm gonna smoke her my whole life you know I am a smoker I know your days
are numbered you're gonna be back smoking cigarettes again because we all
act consistent with who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who is really conservative if you're a
really crazy person you are crazy outrageous playful you don't have
conservative because it's not who you are
very often people say well I can't do that I'm not that kind of person and I
always say to people really when did you define yourself
you're often we made decisions in our youth or very young about what to
believe about what we were capable of about who we are as a person and that
becomes the glass ceiling view well that controls us
willpower doesn't last but rituals can last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you've been doing three years even though some
of them don't serve you once you walk in and that identity your brain finds a way
to keep you there I'm just saying wake yourself up if you
want a new year and a new life you don't need to start in January first start
today start with this little video
listen how's your new your coming out so far
when did you define yourself I mean really how many years ago did you come
up with what you could and couldn't do in your life how many years ago most
people if they really look at how to live in their life today it's based on a
set of standards a set of beliefs that they made choices about 10 20 30 or more
years ago
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