how many times do I have to say what is everybody this is Chris from the rewired
salt where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new
to my channel my channel is all about trying to help you improve your mental
and emotional well-being so if you're into that make sure you subscribe and
ring that notification bell so welcome back to another amazing
patreon Q&A where I like all of you ask me questions who are supporting the
channel over on patreon so I started doing this when I get a video of the
other day just focused on one of the questions but I wanted to do five more
today anyways I get flooded flooded with DMS and
emails and messages and tweets and all sorts of stuff and comments in the in
the YouTube videos asking me like oh hey can you do a video on this can you do a
video on that so if you look like me to answer some of your questions more
specifically go to sign up on patreon you can do it for as little as a dollar
some of the people's questions I'm reading today I'm paying one dollar a
month not a bad deal anyway it's a little bit of housecleaning first is I
want to talk to you about boundaries real quick some boundaries that I've set
up so back when my mental health was really really bad I was a people pleaser
I was a huge people pleaser I was always trying to make everybody happy and it
drove me insane you might be able to relate to that so a lot of you send me
these messages or comments and tell me to make videos so I don't want to sound
harsh I don't want to sound mean I don't want to get too sassy when I say this
but I hope you understand what I say I am NOT your orders somebody who is a
people-pleasing set up these boundaries one of the best pieces of advice I can
give you is if you're taking care of your mental health right people are
gonna think you're a douche but this is one of the best piece of advice I give
you if you are taking care of your mental health right you're going to
upset some people because you've got to set boundaries so like I said don't mean
to be mean I'm just letting you know all right so let's get started with the
first question so first question is hey Chris I hope your day is going well I've
noticed that your latest video have papad about celebrities YouTube and
otherwise I was wondering if this is kind of a new format or if you are going
to share some more videos about teaching about mental health from your own
experiences and from what you've studied just curious
question I answer it a lot and I'm like should I just quit answering this
question but since the video about more of like why my brain works the way it
works but something I say when I reply to people is like I don't make videos
about youtubers I don't know what you're talking about
I make videos about all of you so what I'm gonna do right now I'm going to read
some of my most recent videos about youtubers and tell you the topics that
they're actually about so the nerd City expose the lives of Jay Paul that's
about why you don't lie I talk about my experience of how I caused my own
anxiety Jeffery store calls anything about it about Paul Joseph Watson in pop
culture about how people don't know or understand depression and it's actually
causing the stigma this one about Bobby burns people are enabling him a lot of
you watching these videos are enablers you don't realize it leafyishere that's
a good one too I used to be one of the most selfish self-centered people you'll
ever meet and now I try not to do that Trisha Paytas and Jason ash that one is
all about borderline personality disorder relationships that can help a
lot of people I can help people with boundary setting with I talked a little
bit about cognitive behavioral therapy in there I also talked a lot about how
to work with somebody you know who needs to start developing some better habits
the chilled chaos video that one is about depression as a whole and there's
a few different topics that I touch on in that video that might help anybody in
there out there who has depression this one about Garrett stopped running away
from the problems how many of you watching this video right now run away
from your problems a lot of stuff in there about that this one this one is
really good the Marzia what about it existential crisis that one talks a lot
about depression how do we deal with an existential crisis as well as living in
someone's shadow or doing things for other people and not what your true
passion is so anyways I can do this all day I can do this all day so there are
many people who understand what I'm doing a lot of people don't but I can
sum it up with this amazing amazing comment from Think Pink which I just
posted my Instagram and it says this I've been
watching quite a few of your videos and I've seen a rare comment here they're
asking you why you disgust youtubers so much and wanting to add something to
those that make think that I like the correlation you make with mental health
issues that parallel with issues everybody can relate to in my humble
opinion I don't watch mental health videos
truthfully I find them boring or I don't relate to them not trying to be rude but
we all like different things this is honestly the most unique way to get your
topics out there well while using examples from social media I love your
content it's refreshing and different I never wait comments but on the rare
occasion thank you for the great videos so I make videos for people like Think
Pink I make videos for people who are bored like you don't want to go away I
am somebody who loves watching hour-long lectures about neuroscience but if I
wrote in a title hour-long lecture about miracle science this is all about how
the brain works how many people would watch it but if I could taste something
that you're already watching or something that's a pop culture boom I
just tricked you into learning about your mental health you're welcome second
question I really enjoy your videos I've learned a lot from them one topic that
comes to mind is should I try to help out a co-worker who is abusing drugs or
alcohol my husband and I work in television unfortunately substance abuse
is a big problem in this field my husband had to fire an employee recently
due to a right behavior from drug use since my husband is a manager you can't
really go around accusing people of doing drugs even when it's obvious so do
you have any advice for what we should do if anything great question great
great great question and there's a lot of industries there's a lot of
industries where substance abuse is really high bars restaurants you know a
whole bunch of industries where people like to party
so anyways one of the first things that I would do is talk to HR like you got a
clock to HR and I would educate myself if any of you want an employer or a
manager educate yourself about like does your insurance cover
you know treatment you know what options does it have is a good coverage whatever
it is so you can provide somebody with options but the other thing is is you
got to give the person an ultimatum so my mom my mom for example she
sober until her job was threatened okay but there was an ultimatum there either
get you act together or lose your job so like we don't want to just kick people
out and say that these people who are abusing substances are lost causes
because nobody is but you have to set up boundaries with them and sometimes you
have to give them an ultimatum in order for them to get help so basically it's
like yo you can keep your job if you go get help that's what happened to my best
friend he's been clean over three years now you know what I mean no you don't
get excuse everybody the last thing I would say is do kind of like what the
TSA does wait just randomly drug test everybody so
you're not specifically holding in on somebody this is something you should
talk to HR about and then like drug test 50 people and you'll catch the people
who are using so this next question she says how to find the right therapist so
a few things one of them is I was just talking to a friend and this might help
some of you like when shopping around for therapists and trying to find the
right one like ask your friends ask your friends who are in therapy you know does
a therapist you know and who's looking for a therapist who is well educated
maybe kind of nerdy you know uses certain techniques like cognitive
behavioral therapy and all that so like get recommendations from other people so
same thing you would do for a restaurant right if I like Chinese food I want to
find a good Chinese food restaurant maybe I'll ask some friends like hey
where's a good Chinese food restaurant you know what I like you know what I
need so that's something I would suggest is like leave your friends you can also
read reviews online I'm just always iffy about reviews online because especially
in mental health I've seen people who wrote them up right the most ridiculous
reviews just because we deal with mental health I'll put it that way but the
other thing I'll say is like don't stress don't stress about it like
shopper well into different therapists go do one therapy session feel the
person out like you should you should do like three sessions before you find a
new one but shopper well like I think one of the biggest fears people
is like cutting ties with a therapist listen I'll tell you this when I tell
people in recovery all the time who have sponsors like listen if you in the
relationship with them and they get upset that's on them it's not on you
right like as mental health professionals we sign up for that I know
I know that not everybody is going to want to work with me I have a certain
style I'm tough love whacky and stuff maybe some people don't like that that's
cool no offense taken you know what I mean so I think it'll be easier for you
to find a therapist if you don't worry so much okay going back to school right
now that is a certified alcohol and drug counselor hopefully all this research on
my own so far my ultimate goal is to get a PhD to get a PhD in some kind of
psychology that's what I would love to do like I always try to achieve the best
I try to you know bring myself to my best potential and I would love to get a
PhD I just don't like the idea of student debt with bush there's another
one I'm gonna do a review on this soon I just love educating myself so I'm
constantly growing constantly learning especially just because mental health is
so scientific there's new findings all the time all
the time so I am never going to stop learning I never want to stop learning
about mental health because the more we learn the more we can help other people
last questions if you've been diagnosed with with a disorder and we made you try
turned you into a zombie what do you do so another question
so my experience with this is it's a couple minutes the only medication that
really made me zombie ish was trans adone which for those of you who don't
know is a non-narcotic sleeping medication that may have but it's
supposed to knock you out the problem was that it would stay in my system the
next day okay when the Koston medications as a whole alright so a few
things one of them is just recognize it's gonna take it could take anywhere
from two to three weeks for some medications to actually you know so like
keep that in mind but this is why you always need to follow up with your
doctor or psychiatrist or whoever it is and let them know say hey this is making
me feel like I was in a fog all day long
they might adjust the dosage or switching medications one of the biggest
mistakes I see people make is that one medication they have a weird reaction to
like like drowsiness or whatever and they just think that every single
medication isn't gonna work that is not true okay so the other option you have
if your insurance covers it or if you want to pay out of pocket for you there
is genetic testing okay like the company I was working for we had a genetics lab
and they gave me a free genetic test all I did was swamp my cheek they sent it
out to the loud two weeks later they gave me an entire list of different
medications and whether or not I would have a reaction to them so just think
about that for a little bit but my suggestion is keep following up with the
doctor switch adjust medications like we have to be open and honest with doctors
and find the right combination of medications for example and I need to
make another video about this I switched from lexapro to Prozac recently
had a lot a lot less symptoms or side effects with prozac than I did with
lexapro so don't be afraid to change or adjust your meds alright if you would
like to help support the channel over on patreon and get your questions answered
there's gonna be a link at the end of this video thank you everybody and if
any of you are on the patreon and I didn't get your question today
do not worry every single question is going to be answered I just don't want
to make these hour long videos so don't you worry but keep sending me more and
more questions there's a few questions in there that I think deserve a specific
dedicated video and again again tough love me setting up boundaries I love all
of you but I am NOT your waiter so do not just keep throwing suggestions at me
for videos okay I only have so much time so if you would like to get your
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