Welcome to the Kammebornia podcast, about life in general and knitting in particular
In the Kammebornia podcast we want to invite you to our world
that is full of thoughts, feelings and discussions
caused by the scent of the coffee and the soft peaceful rhythm of the knitting
Kammebornia is our art project as well as our own kingdom
Kammebornia is about our wish that everyone could live in their own fairytale kingdom in this place we call reality
and it is about our wish that everyone could be the king or the queen in their own life
We are Dennis and Pia and we live on Gotland, the island of roses and fairytales in the Baltic sea
We wish for a softer, more kind and warm world
Love and respect, does it have to be so hard?
Without the woolen threads, I get lost
but if I can knit one more row, and one more, I can find my way home again
Through the magic of the threads I take my way through the days and the nights
With a rhythm like the waves and the beating of the heart,
I knit one stitch after the other and one row after the other
at the same time I collect my thoughts and feelings
We light the Advent candles one by one, a burning prayer for truth and right
The first one will burn deep inside me, preserve my heart and warm my mind
Hello! And welcome to episode 10 / 2018 of the Kammebornia Podcast
The poem that I read (my random translation) as you lit the candle, is written by Margareta Melin
a Swedish poet that I like very much
it continues with a new verse for each candle
Maybe all of you do not know about the Swedish traditions in Advent, the time before Christmas
We have an Advent candlestick with four candles and we light one more candle each Sunday before Christmas
Is this common anywhere else?
I think maybe in Germany, my German relatives did that but it was different, it was thicker candles and in a green wreath
But I do not know if that is common?
Please tell us about your traditions during Advent!
Yes, it would be interesting! What happens today?
We will talk about Advent and expectations
Some knitting of course, and we will talk about a word we would like to exterminate...!
Abolish maybe
Maybe that's a better expression
Anyway, it is a word, a concept, that we do not like
We will soon be back!
Here you are, knitting, how cosy! We were going to talk about Advent?
Yes, what are your reflections or expectations?
I do not have any expectations, do I?
You often have big expectations
Well, maybe I have, I love Christmas, so you are right, I have expectations
But it is not a hard thing
Expectations do not have to be hard
No, but if you get stressed, even fun things can be hard to deal with
I think most people get stressed before Christmas
Yes, I think it is common to feel some kind of pressure
Like you want to do this and that, and you have to perform, do things, buy things and so on
Be social with other people
A lot of running around and cleaning and fixing
How are we dealing with this? Are we just relaxed?
Yes, oh, December is so not stressful and only relaxing
No, it does not work that way for us either, but why are we running around, stressing?
But why do we stress? It is our own expectations, is it not?
Yes, it is our own stress, because both of us like to have it clean and in a certain way at Christmas
because, then we can feel more relaxed at Christmas, during the holiday
So I think we put ourselves under pressure to prepare for a festive holiday
Work hard - have a nice time later
Just the way we try not to be otherwise, when we want to have a better balance
We have talked about this before, like suggesting people not to stress so much
but it is hard not to
it is easy to express, harder to fulfill
We also have to handle other people's expectations, what do the children want and so on
What is important in this family?
What would Christmas be like in our home if we did not run around fixing things before?
Terrible!
Would we like that?
Maybe? We have not tried it?
Look, how stressed you are! Are you disappointed now?
Well, I think it would be hard for you actually
You are right, I would not like that
Me neither, I want to bake the cookies and put them in the beautiful cookie tin and we all like that
We want to decorate the tree and all that
We need to clean some surfaces
We do not want to stick to the table or something because we have not wiped it off
I think it is as always, about finding your own balance
How do I want it to be? What do we like in our family?
What is Christmas for us and how shall we make it happen?
And the other way around - what is NOT important, what can we skip? Forget about?
LIke I think it is more important to be together than to dust every corner
Or maybe NOT be together with the people you do not want to be together with, like say no thank you to
relatives and other people you do not want to spend time with
It is a hard thing, but why spend time with people that you do not want to be with?
I think it is very common to be with the ones you do not want to be with
It is really complicated of course, you do not want to hurt people
It is a tricky balance
But maybe you hurt yourself instead and it shows and then you still hurt someone else by letting it show
Constraint company...
Maybe we should also reflect on why we are celebrating Christmas?
How do you mean?
I mean the reason, you can see it here, behind us
You mean what happened like 2000 years ago?
I think that whatever your beliefs are and whatever you think about this, it carries an important and beautiful message
Yes, absolutely!
Ok, so it is both about finding your own balance, reflect on who you want to spend time with
and how clean you want everything to be, but also about being so good and capable all the time
Like, Ilike to make my own dough for the gingerbread cookis and so on but I do not want to force that
on to someone else and if you do not like to do that, do something else!
You can buy a dough or you can buy cookies, or skip it, do what you want!
I do not like it when you feel you have to do like this or like that
So I think that is an important thing - to find your own balance and do things your own way
Not feeling guilty for doing things different than someone else
But it is not an easy thing, not to stress
If you are feeling guilty for stressing it will be like a double stress
the important thing is to be aware about it and try to deal with it your way
Now we are on our way to this word we said we want to banish
And it is disappointment or being disappointed with someone
Is all going well with your knitting?
Yes now it does, I had to unravel and knit backwards for a while, I had done something wrong but it is fixed now
Were you disappointed then? With me? With yourself?
No! Disappointed is the word I do not like.
Can you explain why we do not like this word?
What is the point in being disappointed?
I mean, of course I can feel that this was crazy, but being disappointed is so negative and it spreads negativity
It is such a heavy thing. I find it better just to be angry or sad or sorry, handle it and then go on.
Maybe my knitting was not a good example.
It is common that people say to each other: You are making me disappointed!
I think that is impossible, we can only do that to ourselves
It is not a kind thing to say to someone
Disappointment is an emotion that we carry ourselves and we do not give that to each other
So if you say to someone: You make me disappointed
then you are projecting your own feelings, your own emotions of maybe feeling let down or betrayed
you project these negative emotions on someone else and make them responsible for your own emotions
I feel like shit and it is your fault
Of course we can feel bad because what other people do!
But we have to handle our own emotions
It is not kind to say that someone makes you feel disappointed, it is better to say you are mad or sad or something
You have to reflect on your own emotions
Not projecting it on someone else
The terrible thing is doing this to children
Imagine I am a little child and I have messed up the whole table with jam
And then you come screaming: Have you jam everywhere? You make me so disappointed!
Then the child feels like, Oh, I am a bad person, I have made him mad
Isn-t it better just to say, Oops, this was not very good, let's clean it up!
You can talk about it but not projecting disappointment
If someone else comes into the room and sees the jam, he or her might not be disappointed.
This must mean it is not the child that MAKES the adult person feeling disppointment, as not everyone feels the same
It is not the child that causes this feeling
It is your own emotions
You mentioned other examples before
Like if you have asked a child to clean up their room
and then you come home and nothing has happened, it still looks like shit
then you are tired and drained from other things maybe at work and you say: You make me so disappointed!
It is so silly! It does not work!
No, I can not mobilize that emotion!
So let's banish that thing!
You some other example, when a teenager comes home and you find out that he or she has smoked
I would never feel disappointed or say that they make me disappointed
I want to keep my trust and also say what I find is wrong
I can say that I think it is wrong and I wish he or she would not smoke, but I can not decide how they are going to live their lives
We must all take responsibility for our own actions
We are all walking around carrying invisible backpacks full of all our experiences. All our meetings with other
people and things we have done and seen have shaped us to the person we are today
If I meet someone that I think is behaving bad, I always think it must depend on something
Maybe he or she is not feeling well, or has other values or something else
I do not see it as an action against me
No, it never is
It is kind of the same thing as when you say no thank you to something
I have learned that it is important to say no thank you and skip doing things that makes you feel bad
Sometimes you even have to skip things you want to do and like to do because it will be too much
If you say no to something, to care about yourself, does not mean that you are doing something AGAINST someone else
So, a no thank you FOR yourself is not the same thing as AGAINST someone else
But you can be worried that you will make someone disappointed, which is about how the other person reacts
Let's not be disappointed on one another, it is so destructive. Let's care about ourselves so we can care
about each other! And handle the disappointments.
Are you not knitting today?
No, I am eating saffron buns instead.
I have made them to make you happy. I like to do that, make things to make you happy.
It's nice! What is on your needles?
I am making a shawl that I am inventing as I go.
I needed a project that was only simple and joyful, without so much performance
Knitting has turned into a job for me so I need to not let go of the joy by always having deadlines
So I just took some yarn I had in my stash and started knitting
So that is what I am up to right now, a rainbow shawl
I have also finished my pair of Roses are red in brown Rauma finull
Then it has been a lot about the Wisby mini mittens
A nice thing that has happened is that Patricia, @knitography or @p4chen, has made these
super cute mini mitten blockers for my mini mittens!
Aren't they cute? It is so much fun to work together!
And they are so nice, as beautiful decoration or ornaments
And you are just about to start knitting on your sleeves for your Riddari?
Yes, I am about to do that
I let it take some time
Yes! And I have my cardigan here, that we showed you in the latest episode. I have finally chosen ribbons that
I am sewing onto the button bands
And I am so satisfied with the buttons
I like to work on the details
I bought this ribbon in Norway
Do you have any Christmas knitting plans?
I want to start knitting a hat
Yes! And maybe tonight I can assist you when casting on for the sleeve?
Yes, we have had so much to do and the needle was gone
We could not find a 3.5 mm needle in our house so we had to get a new one
Very strange, but now we have it!
With 3 knitters in one house, the needles tend to get occupied
I want to talk about a book that made me so happy
It is called A Year In The Secret Garden
I have earlier told you about the book The Secret Garden and how important that book has been to me
It is written by Frances Hodgson Burnett and it has always been very dear to me
This book is about The Secret Garden and it is an activity book, it contains things to do inspired by The Secret Garden
Recipes, games, diy's, different activities, based on things happening in the book
It is following the year and there is so much inspiration here!
A lot of fun facts and ideas
I would have loved to have this book when the children were young, because it reminds me so much of
all the nice things we used to do together around book we read
For example, we read the Little house on the Praire
And then I searched for information about Laura Ingalls Wilder
this was a while ago, so it was in the beginning of the Internet
Anyway, I found this scanned handwritten recipe by Laura, for a cake she used to make for Almazo, her husband
It was such an amazing thing to bake this cake and to learn about the ingredients and the English words for them
We still talk about that sometimes, that we could bake the same cake as Laura did. It was fascinating!
And to see her handwriting!
A fun fact about this book, is that it is written and published by our dear friend Valarie, that lives in the US
We met Valarie like a year ago, but it feels as we have always known each other
Valaries life as a writer and publisher started in a very special way that you will talk about
We have a mutual friend, a childhood friend of mine, that said she wanted us to meet, and it was so special
We loved each other instantly, and we have so much in common. She is for example also a knitter.
She also loves books and fairytales and has spent a lot of time with her kids, just like I have.
We would have had so much fun if we were neighbours when the children were younger!
But now it is your time to tell how it all started!
A Fox Family moved into their garden
Valarie started to watch them and take pictures of them
She got to know the Foxes
She wanted to write a book about them but the publishers were not interested
They thought people would not be interested in foxes
So Valarie decided to publish it by herself and it was so successful
I see a trend with foxes now, they are really popular in knitting patterns, prints and so on
well, Valarie did the right thing and then she continued publishing more books from other authors
This book is so precious
So this is a warm recommendation and we will put links in the show notes
This is also a book, published by her, Pilgrimage, a modern seeker's guide
I want to read this during the holiday's
It is about being a pilgime and how it is about the inner voyage
We have to listen to our hearts and go inside ourselves
I look forward to reading it
We have one more book to talk about, Wiolakofter, that I got from Kristin Wiola the other day
This is a new book, in Norwegian
It is so lovely!
A nice mix of traditional and modern design
There is a sweater here that I want to knit for you
This one!
Wow! It's nice!
Ok, are we finished now?
Yes!Thank you for watching! Take care!
See you soon!
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