A dirty talk secret trick! Hi, I'm Susan Bratton, trusted hot sex adviser to
millions, and you're watching my series on dirty talk including recognizing your
and your lover's dirty talk style, dirty talk fantasies, how to talk dirty without
feeling weird, the five essentials to dirty talk, and this video - a dirty talk
secret trick. If you have ever struggled to come up with dirty talk, here is the
easiest way to make it effortless. Simply describe what you're seeing happening to
your partner's body during lovemaking because part of dirty talk is worshiping
your partner's body. Verbalizing what you're visualizing is very sexy.
This is dirty talk to the nth degree. There's literally no end to what you can
describe when you are truly paying attention to your lover. It's a simple
matter of putting into words what you are experiencing visually. Say what you see.
Now, I also want to encourage you to comment below on this video because I
respond to all nice comments, and go ahead while you're down there and grab
my new ebook Dirty Talk with bonus material like phrases you can use
tonight when you click the 'show more' on your computer or if you're on your phone,
a little triangle below this video there's a link to the full dirty talk
book with my pleasure. Now let's get into a few examples of what you might say to
a woman. When you're describing what you're seeing, saying what you're seeing.
"Oh I see her yoni getting all plump and fluffy. I see your labia turning a slight
tinge of beautiful purple. I see your clitoris getting harder now. Oh I see her
poking out of her hood. I see your breasts swelling up. I see your nipples.
They're hard, standing straight up and right through your bra." There are a few
examples for women. Now here are a few examples you might say
to the masculine. "Ooh, I see your penis getting so hard. Oh I see you straining
to reach toward me. Mm, you are so hard I know how bad you want me. You look so
gorgeous. Those veins on your hard make my mouth water. I want you so much.
Ooh, feelin' your biceps makes my wet." This form of dirty talk is less about
the doing-the-nasty and more about moving into the realms of tantric
lovemaking. Here's where we go to that. And it goes beyond simple genital
admiration to actually worshiping your partner's genital anatomy. Now a penis is
most commonly called a 'lingam' and a 'yoni' is what a vagina is, and this is lingam
and yoni worship where the language of love and the language of lust mix and
mingle and become almost spiritual in their sexuality. It's an unforgettable
moment for a woman. The look of awe on a man's face when he spreads her legs wide
and looks at her genitals and says "oh she's so beautiful."
One such utter and spoken with total sincerity can wash away years, even
decades, of negative conditioning, and few are the lucky ones who escape the 'eww'
factor to some degree while growing up in a sex negative culture like ours. Once
internalized that 'eww' factor can short-circuit your sexual pleasure.
So genital worship is the antidote to that poison. Imagine you can actually set
your lover free to enjoy their sexuality simply by seeing the beauty of their
genitals. Now that's what I call a gift that keeps on giving. "You're so
delicious. He feels so good inside me. You fit me perfectly.
I love it when we're together. You have the most solid man-hammer I've ever seen
in my life. Let's get to work with that thing. I
worship your c*ck. Look at this mouth-watering piece of meat. I want to gobble you all up."
Appreciating the sight of your lover's genitals as well as their body in
general can really increase your mutual turn-on so be sure to include statements
about how seeing your lovers genitals affects you. Make the visuals you create
by painting the pictures with your words very hot. Now there's a tremendous amount
of freedom that comes with lingam and yoni worship. There's no way to do it
wrong but let me give you some words to put in your mouth. "Your yoni is so
beautiful. Your yoni looks so incredibly inviting. Your labia look luscious and I
want to suck on them. She's such a beautiful flower.
What a gorgeous butterfly of love. I love the way your c*ck curves up and makes my
g-spot giggle. Your balls look so amazingly tight up against your c*ck.
That's hot to me. I love the way your penis strains when you get near me." You
get the picture. Most of what I've been talking about until now falls into the
category of what I call 'momentum dirty talk.' The net effect is forward movement
that takes you into deeper and deeper states of arousal. What's more, it
increases your awareness and your acceptance of the natural desire you
have for your partner. It brings you closer together. It increases your desire
for each other and for both men and women equally across the gender spectrum.
We all want and respond to approval. We crave it in our sexual experiences
with one another and we want and even need that encouragement.
Who knew that dirty talk is all about presence being right here and right now.
Who knew that dirty talk was about how you tune into your lover's responses.
It's a call and response. Its feedback. It's introducing
the notion of developing your own private love language. That's what dirty
talk's about. That's what makes it safe for both of you to say the dirtiest
things, the most honorable things, the most respectful things that turn you on
together and what's great about noticing your partner's arousal is that it
encourages them to get even more turned on. You're essentially cheer-leading them
to victory, encouragement, and approval or seductive actions that draw your lover
toward more pleasure. Even better when you're tuned in to your lover and really
seeing them and really expressing what you find beautiful right in that moment
about them actually increases your happiness, your gratitude, your intimacy.
So the giving is the getting. If you wonder why dirty talk is so beloved to
so many, it's almost always because it's a powerful experience of appreciation
and the most beautiful thing about giving someone appreciation is that you
feel happier when you give then when you get. Weirdly enough it's the same with love.
You feel more loved by giving love than even by receiving it. So if you want to
feel more loved, go out and give it. If you want to enjoy dirty talk, make it
full of love and appreciation and don't forget to grab my ebook 'Dirty Talk' with
some extra steamy phrases that won't be bleeped that you can incorporate into
your sexy talk tonight, and while you're down there subscribe to my Better Lover
YouTube channel and give this video a thumbs up while you're there as well, and
watch the previous videos in the series to find your dirty talk style, and watch
the next one coming up which is the final video in the series called,
because I just do this with you, 'Dirty Talk Fantasies.' I'll see you there.