- Sometimes we have men like you told 60 60 70 years old looking for ladies 30
25 and when I explain it's impossible then they tell me about the dating
websites when all the ladies in 20s are ready to get married - that's
because these are the websites that charge people per play per letter per
communication right so they see they're fantasy!
- Yeah but many men don't understand this and they try to prove me there's a very good
man to get married and all young ladies are interested in them especially
doctors and lawyers so I just don't argue in these cases and say it and tell
them to use maybe these sites more and tell me what happens in three years for example
Свем привет and welcome back to another episode of the vodka
vodcast with me Conor Clyne this is the Tsar Experience and today I've invited on
Elena from prime matchmaking and we're gonna have a discussion about what is a
realistic age gap between a man and women here in Ukraine for dating and for
marriage because Elena has her own matchmaking agency and she has a lot of
experience with dealing with foreign men who come to Ukraine in order to look for a
wife and of course as you see in my channel I give a lot of advice about dating
and meeting women when you're traveling and obviously have probably a bit of a
different experience because I can spend a lot of time here in Ukraine to a lot
of you guys out there who might become actually when one of Lena's clients so that's
what we're gonna discuss today so Lena welcome to the channel
and so you've been working here in Odessa matchmaking for how long exactly?
For 10 years overall in this field of international dating since my student
times and match making several years so what's your ... I mean I'll tell you
guys then afterwards what I think about what's a realistic age gap so in general
women Ukraine would you say it's fair to say like guys were older than them in
general mmm-hmm is that true? - In some cases ... older
the the ladies local ladies choose older men sometimes of course for but
usually for several several years five seven years
so I would say is the most realistic is not more than 15 years but still we have
many couples with big age gap and still say they can be successful so this
question I think that it depends not only on our country but more on
the compatibility in a couple but of course if we have clients who claim for
who ask for 30 years difference or 25 year difference it becomes more
difficult to find such a lady for men because in general our ladies when they
grow up they don't dream about men who have a big age
difference they just meet the right person and they can fall in love but
they don't dream about it okay like about a prince ... - But the prince can be any age so
in general in Ukraine what's a typical age difference you think five to seven years is
typical amongst Ukrainians themselves is that fair to say five to seven? I think
yes but I didn't make any statistics about it but what that I was I observed
from routine life from ordinary life I think it's like this okay - That's
something I should probably go and check exactly what they they a median age for
marriages maybe there are some statistics on that so amongst your
clients what where is the highest point of success in terms of like the the
foreign man who comes here and uses your matchmaking service would you say that
it's like no more than ten years that there's a high level of success ...
you mentioned 15 years like how does it play out is it like you will find
someone compatible for like all the guys who stick to ten years less than ten
years age gap or less than five years age gap but how does it break down
for you when you you look at age in particular with success in finding a
partner I think it depends on again more about the compatibility in the couple we
can't talk about only one factor like age so I can't answer your question put
it it but you said fifteen years so it's just easier because ladies are more
interested in a man who are closer to their age they say oh you have young men
for me it's good - To give people an idea when like where is it realistic right
because you're seeing it was all about compatibility that I
I will tell they've been a minute but I think but in my experience but if you
say it's all about compatibility age is completely irrelevant but you're saying
at the same time like after fifteen years against really difficult - You know
it's it's one aspect that it can influence the success but it's not 100%
influencing the success okay and you know when men applied to us of course we
have never worked personally with him and
have the opportunity to present him in the right wait for the lady if even he's
older and we can explain to the lady his good traits and present in the right
way and it's becoming more easier for him to meet the right woman and then
just walking on the street for example but ... - so you for you for you it just
becomes once you get over like 15 years as an age cap you think it becomes a lot
harder for you to find a Ukrainian woman is going to be interested in that so
then the pool becomes smaller - Not a lot but it more difficult yes but you don't
think it's actually a major issue like it's just one factor amongst many and
it's not an insurmountable issue if the if the age gap is bigger than 15 years.
- Yeah it's becoming more difficult but still possible but I am a personally think
that of course we can find a couple but we don't know about the success for the
future and it's well known by also from psychologists that when the couple have
more compatibility in sense of values cultural issues the ground about the
education of both partners and also age, it becomes more easy for people to live
longer in the couple - Okay more than actually the age difference between them
it's only there's a variance but it's not a huge variance the most
important point is actually the other elements like values and interests and
commonality with culture - Because our aim is not just to make people marry yes we
want to create relationships to help to create relationships when people can
stay longer with each other because sometimes I saw such approach from some
of agencies that I know when they started tried to put clients very
quickly to each other and trying to change their mind meet please marry
sooner I don't do that I want people to feel first first of all the
other person and to understand how much time they can spend together because I
don't think marrying every two year is a good idea
- Well it's personal preference you want every two years but in general most
people they want to get married probably once and stay with the same
person yeah - we want this happen - so yeah my experience this is very interesting for me
to hear that it also makes it harder as you as the age cap grows but it's not an
insurmountable it's not it's not going to be an element that you know prevents
you from finding a wife or a girlfriend here in Ukraine I would say in my
experience the experience of my clients who come here that the biggest factor is
not age I don't actually think age makes really any difference at all to to my
clients or to me or my friends when we come here in terms of an age gap it's more
about actually being somewhat more youthful and taking care of yourself and
on top of of course the things you mentioned like values and and
commonality in culture commonality and find somebody that you have as a
soulmate I think that yeah if you are coming as
someone who looks who's like say 60 grossly overweight bald then that's
gonna be definitely age is going to be a factor right I mean then I think what
you're saying about you know over more than 15 years becomes very relevant and
I think it actually becomes almost unrealistic if you're going to look for
a massive age gap if you don't look in good health in general you don't offer
something in return for that but if you are someone who a guy who comes to
Ukraine and then his you know takes care of himself and has something to offer an
interesting guy has a you know good personality then I don't think actually
age makes any difference at all I think it's very very - but talking about the
long perspective what do you think because if man becomes 80 for example
a lady is only 50 it can be a problem after all - yeah but it's not part of the
something that you have to take into account if you're recommending to your
clients like a reasonable age gap I think that's something that's very
relevant if you're looking for someone as for a long-term partner or or a
spouse like you have to imagine right if I married this person today the
age gap is 50 to 20 at 80 they're gonna be 50s they are definitely going
to - why I am discuss this topic because sometimes we have men like you told 60
60 70 years old the lady looking for ladies 30 25 and when I explained it's
impossible then they tell me about the dating websites when all the ladies
in twenties are ready to get married - that's because these are the websites
that charge people per play per letter per communication right so basically they're
fantasy yeah - but many don't understand this and they try to prove me they are a
very good man to get married and all young ladies are interested in them
especially doctors and lawyers so I just don't argue in these cases and say
and tell them to use maybe these sites more and tell me what happens in three
years for example exactly - I think we all know what's gonna happen they're going to get scammed
That's something to be definitely very aware of okay well I think in general we can say
that age is a minor factor but you still need
to be realistic especially if you're looking for a long-term partner in
Ukraine that you should imagine if there's a 30-year age gap how
will that look when you get older for example I think that's pretty very
pertinent advice but compatibility is definitely a lot more important than
than age. Age is just a minor element afterall. I noticed other men from all the countries
they said so I am fifty or more I still I'm still young inside so I need the
younger woman and woman have the same text every day and even local Ukrainian
man they do the same - but if you're young on the inside and young
on the outside then that's not an issue I think if there's discrepancy between how you look ...
- You are a man and you share this opinion too I notice
- 100%! I just do my best to look young on both sides both
inside and outside Thank You Lena as I was saying Lena runs prime
matchmaking yeah and I've also of course I invited her on the channel because I
want to help you guys who are looking for marriage that's not something I can
personally help you with because I don't run a dating site or a marriage site or
anything like that matchmaking but I want you guys who write to me so often
to go to honest agencies and not get scammed like we talked about these
dating sites where you know you can write to a photo of a 20 year old
Instagram model but they're basically gonna charge you for that kind of
communication and I do have clients who contact me and when I research it
they're inevitably being being scammed so I want you guys to really look for
honest agencies and one of the biggest red flags is whether they charge you for
communication or so Lena is runs a matchmaking service she has a lot of
experience and she doesn't charge for that she charges to find you a partner
when you could when you come here to Ukraine so we've discussed it and if you
go to the link below in the description and you see you are a friend of Conor when
you you sign up you'll get a 10% discount on all the services that Lena
is offering so I encourage you if that's something you're interested to do do
your research go check out Lena's matchmaking service prime and they're
you know definitely do so do your homework do your research and please do
your best not to be tempted into writing to photos of you know Instagram models
and all this kind of shenanigans they're not how many 20 year old instagram models so
you think really need to go to a matchmaking site to find a partner that
would be none so be be more realistic and if you are I wish you the best of
luck in your searches and if you're new to the channel this is the Tsar Experience
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to the video I will see all of your smiling enthusiastic faces for Eastern
Europe really soon in the next video so for today from Odessa Ukraine from
Lena's office it's до свидания! До побачення! See you in the next one! Ciao!
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