Hey, everybody, it's Mallory Grimste
from mallorygrimste.com and I'm here today coming live
because I've been talking a lot this week
about setting goals and how you can help get a happier teen.
So if you enjoy learning more about helping teens
feel better together and you are a teen
or you know a teen that's struggling with depression,
anxiety, low self-esteem and just looking for helpful,
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So today is all about how to make this the year
that you finally get a happier teen.
I'm going to be sharing three,
yep, that's one, two, three different ways
that you can start finally getting a happier teen this year
and make sure you stick all the way to the end
because I'll be sharing a bonus technique as well
but before we get started, if you're new here,
don't skip this part.
This is just my little mini disclaimer to let you know
that even though I am a licensed mental health therapist
in the state of Connecticut, this information right here
is only being provided to you for educational
informational purposes only.
Is is not psychotherapy or counseling
and it's to be used at your own risk
based on your own judgment.
If you need to speak with a professional,
make sure to contact one local to you.
Alright, so let's get into it.
Strategy number one, stop talking and start listening.
One of the magical things that happens in counseling
and therapy is that this is the space
where you can freely share
all the stuff that's coming at you
and floating around in your head
and as teenagers, our teens need that time and space as well
so it's totally normal as a helper or a parent
or even a friend.
You just wanna jump in there and help them feel better
and like hey, I know what to do, have you tried this
but most of the time they don't need that.
They've probably already thought of it
and they're just needing to sort it out
and some of us are verbal processors especially teenagers
so being able to just sit back and listen and let them talk
is probably one of the best things that you can do.
It will help them learn to rely on their own intuition
and gut and help you be able to look for
and listen for key nuggets that they may not drop in
unless you stop talking and start listening
a little bit more.
Number two, let them know they're not crazy.
We all have all sorts of complicated thoughts,
negative thinking.
I mean, the way we talk to ourselves is ridiculous.
I would never talk to a friend
the way that I talk to myself sometimes in my head
and with all these thoughts and feelings
and hormones coming at you when you're a teenager,
you just wanna know that you're normal,
that you're not crazy for feeling this way.
Even if you think it's ridiculous to get upset
because that girl Chelsea thinks that green pencils
aren't cool anymore, it's important to your teen.
So if you just hang back
and let them say what they need to do
and be like, you know what, it makes sense
that it's important that Chelsea
thinks that your green pencil is cool
and it makes sense that you'd get upset that she doesn't.
That's it, just validate them.
Let them know that they're not crazy.
Alright.
Strategy number three, practice what you preach.
We've all heard of monkey see, monkey do.
This holds true for teenagers too.
Think about when they're toddlers
and you'd be talking on the phone in the next room.
You really think they're not paying attention
and then like five minutes later,
they're repeating your conversation verbatim.
Teenagers do the same thing.
They're always on the lookout to see can you be trusted
to say what you mean and mean what you say?
So if you're talking about
have some fun, don't stress out,
don't make it all about schoolwork
for your stressed out teenager,
make sure that you're doing the same thing too.
So you can't expect to be a workaholic
and expect your teenager not to follow suit.
So if you're telling them to have more fun,
make sure that you are too.
Alright, before we get into the bonus,
I do wanna share we do still have space
in our teen girls therapy groups
and we are accepting new members
so go on over to mallorygrimste.com
and submit an application if you're local
to the Woodbridge, Connecticut area
and think that your teen could benefit from group therapy.
We go over a lot more of these strategies
in teen girls therapy group
and parents also get a bonus weekly email
with tips just like this particular to what we're going over
in group so you can continue supporting
your teen girls at home.
Alright, here's the bonus.
If you do these three strategies around their friends,
it will magnify the results 'cause here's the thing.
As much as teenagers are looking
to the adults in their lives to practice what they preach,
it's what their friends think and say
that's really gonna make the impact.
So if you are listening more and not talking as much,
if you are letting them know that they're not crazy
for having their feelings
and experiencing what they wanna experience
and if you practice what you preach
all around their friends,
their friends are gonna pay attention and listen to that too
and then when Susie Q is out and about in the world
and venting to their friends,
their friends are gonna be like, hey,
have you tried such and such?
They may not give you credit.
They probably won't but they're paying attention
and they're taking that information in
and so if their friends say the same thing,
they're gonna listen that much more
and that is the magic of group therapy.
This is why I love running groups
because I could say these things,
you could say these things,
other people could be saying these things
but until another teenager says the same thing,
it sometimes doesn't land the same way.
Oh, Patti says great info, thanks for sharing.
Oh, thank you.
Happy to do that.
So if you enjoyed this, please make sure
that you go ahead and subscribe or follow.
I'm so, so happy that you're here with me.
I plan on doing these even more in the future
so if you have a question or feedback, please let me know
and let me know in the comments how are you making sure
that this is the year that you finally get a happier teen?
Can't wait to hear what you all have to say
and be well and have a great rest of your day.
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